Hi, I met a woman at church and I can only think that there was an immediate attraction and chemistry. I am not trying to use church as a pickup joint but it just kindof happened. Anyways it is probably better to meet someone with shared religious beliefs than not.
So this was maybe 2-3 months ago. I am not some guy with some huge ego imagining everyone I meet likes me but I could really just tell. It was very obvious. So she talked to me a lot, gave me her number and I kept trying to ask her to do something. Anything outside the church. She looked conflicted and always had an excuse. I could not figure out why. She would call me or text me and when I gave up asking her to do things she got confused and asked me what was wrong if I was feeling ok. I said yes why? She said well I haven't heard from you in a while. I thought it a little strange because it was only like a week, but I didn't understand because if she didn't want to ever do anything, I can't force her to.
Long story short I get hurt in an accident and go to the hospital and she finally sees me outside of church. But it's all very strange. Like she says she will come visit. But two days go by and she keeps saying she doesn't feel good until the third day she comes and we really just hit it off.
I have met her a couple times since getting out of the hospital. We get along great and she feels better. She stops thinking about anxiety and relaxes. But I can hardly get her to see me.
I only figured out about the ptsd because I told my mom the situation and she said she sounds like she has something like ptsd going on and has good and bad days. So I ask her and she says she has PTSD diagnosed two and a half years ago. I guess my mom is smart.
It makes sense now. Why she won't listen to fast music. Why she is so flaky about meeting me, yet still wants to. Why she said she has full on anxiety attacks some nights. She said she can't be around people who are loud or yell. Hasn't had a relationship since diagnosed. Too bad because we would get along great. I hate fighting and never get mad or yell. Not ever.
But the flip side is she likes me, she wants to do things and not just sit at home managing anxiety and attacks, she said she is much better than when diagnosed two plus years ago.
So what do I do. Normally I would totally just be done with it and I probably am, but I don't want to offend or insult her. I told her we will just be friends because that's what I thought she wanted but she said no that's not what she meant. The whole thing is confusing. I am 99% sure nothing will come of it. Maybe that's for the best, but I'm still curious. I have never met someone like this before. We will still see each other at church and I don't want it to be awkward. It isn't a big church. I don't even know what my question is, lol. Maybe it is.
TL;DR. I met someone with ptsd I am attracted to but unfortunately it does not appear anything romantic can come of it. How do I be a good and caring friend to her? Is having a platonic friendship with a PTSD sufferer easier? Thanks for reading.
So this was maybe 2-3 months ago. I am not some guy with some huge ego imagining everyone I meet likes me but I could really just tell. It was very obvious. So she talked to me a lot, gave me her number and I kept trying to ask her to do something. Anything outside the church. She looked conflicted and always had an excuse. I could not figure out why. She would call me or text me and when I gave up asking her to do things she got confused and asked me what was wrong if I was feeling ok. I said yes why? She said well I haven't heard from you in a while. I thought it a little strange because it was only like a week, but I didn't understand because if she didn't want to ever do anything, I can't force her to.
Long story short I get hurt in an accident and go to the hospital and she finally sees me outside of church. But it's all very strange. Like she says she will come visit. But two days go by and she keeps saying she doesn't feel good until the third day she comes and we really just hit it off.
I have met her a couple times since getting out of the hospital. We get along great and she feels better. She stops thinking about anxiety and relaxes. But I can hardly get her to see me.
I only figured out about the ptsd because I told my mom the situation and she said she sounds like she has something like ptsd going on and has good and bad days. So I ask her and she says she has PTSD diagnosed two and a half years ago. I guess my mom is smart.
It makes sense now. Why she won't listen to fast music. Why she is so flaky about meeting me, yet still wants to. Why she said she has full on anxiety attacks some nights. She said she can't be around people who are loud or yell. Hasn't had a relationship since diagnosed. Too bad because we would get along great. I hate fighting and never get mad or yell. Not ever.
But the flip side is she likes me, she wants to do things and not just sit at home managing anxiety and attacks, she said she is much better than when diagnosed two plus years ago.
So what do I do. Normally I would totally just be done with it and I probably am, but I don't want to offend or insult her. I told her we will just be friends because that's what I thought she wanted but she said no that's not what she meant. The whole thing is confusing. I am 99% sure nothing will come of it. Maybe that's for the best, but I'm still curious. I have never met someone like this before. We will still see each other at church and I don't want it to be awkward. It isn't a big church. I don't even know what my question is, lol. Maybe it is.
TL;DR. I met someone with ptsd I am attracted to but unfortunately it does not appear anything romantic can come of it. How do I be a good and caring friend to her? Is having a platonic friendship with a PTSD sufferer easier? Thanks for reading.
