I know what you mean about the self image stuff. My parents never gave me any feedback about myself, they kind of didn't notice me much. I've realised that when that doesn't happen, you don't really have that parental reflection of who you are - so it makes it harder to know. There's a book I read (that someone on another thread recommended) - I probably recommend it on here a lot, I should get a commission lol, but it's about this kind of stuff. It's called "Running on Empty" by Jonice Webb, really worth a look, it helped me a lot. It's about emotional neglect.