Help with husband

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I have ptsd ftom catastrophic illness cardiopulmonary arrest..Transgenerational trauma ftom my family of origion. Husband is a veteran. He believes in hypervigilance..I just asked him to some how assure me he would not react when the better response would be not reacting pause stop..He is mailing another self defense weapon to his 14 year old grand daughter. He father is retired navy seal. My husband former special forces air force para rescue. I was waiting to go in to my ultrasound appt. Told him I am going in early. I am in feat. He got angry with me again saying I am coping an attitude. I am far from perfect with my skills to manage my ptsd but they are counter to my husbands. He left service in 1996. No ptsd treatmrnt like me. Was told to throw it all in trash. Ok. I love him very much grateful for all he has done but.... help advice insight guidance. Thank you.