Relationship Help!!!

[MsST36]

Hello everyone. I am new to this forum. I don't even know if I'm in the right place but here goes...

I started dating the Mr. over the summer (July). All was going well, we hung out, talked on the telephone almost everyday, texts were coming on an everyday basis, in fact a few times a day. Then in September, it all seemed to crumble.The phone calls slowed up, the visits stopped and their was virtually no text contact. I was left wondering what happened.

Instinctively, I thought it was another woman and I got angry and gave him a piece of my mind. At some point, I recall that he told me that he had tinnitus and the phrase PTSD was mentioned. I thought to myself,"No, not him, it can't be." It seemed that it was coming a reality for me but already a reality for him.

Right now, I am still confused, he told me that he needed to get his life in order, he basically said that it was nothing personal against me and I was a good woman. Yet he wants to push me away, he said he wanted me to leave him alone, I obliged and said to him that I will leave him alone for good. He wouldn't have to worry about me again.

When I said that he started to get upset. At some point in our lengthy discussion he blurted out, I Love You." I'm still wondering whether he met that. So much is going on that my head is spinning. I'm determined to fight with him, through this but sadly I don't know where to begin or how to start. Some advice is needed.

Thanks for any help that can be given.

 

[Shanny Banany]

Hi there. I also am new to this forum. I am currently married to a man who has PTSD. My advice is very simple.....move on with life. He has already told you that he needs to get healthy. This is a journey that he needs to take on his own. A relationship and the emotional turmoil that comes with that are not going to help him. Have him call you when he is healthy. This is not an easy journey for him and he needs to focus on his healing. You will be better off if he is healthy when and if you enter into a relationship with him.

 

[MsST36]

Hello :)
Thanks for your wonderful reply. I have decided to fallback but I made a promise to God and myself that I wasn't going to give up. I will continue to pray for God's will to be done with him. I will continue to be in his corner with God's help. It is extremely distressing to see someone who is so full of life go through these changes. I want him to get healthy but HE'S got to want it as well. I only know what the boyfriend man tells me...and that's not much as of late. Blessings.

 

[sad2010]

It is very hard, but please continue to pray for him, that God will heal him. IT is a roller coaster for everyone involved. If he decides to text every so often, be polite and upbeat and wish him well. It sounds crazy but some days they have a break "when the wonderful person" is there, so just be polite, kind, and encouraging. They will need that.

I have been dealing with this for two years and have learned all of this through a lot of heartache.

It's hard not to take things personally, but please tell yourself, over and over, it has nothing to do with you.

This board offers a lot of comfort, please visit often.

 

[Dallas]

Great advice Shanny Banany and sad2010!

Sincerely,
Dallas.