Sufferer Here for advice on handling things at home

[aweaber]

I'm 37 going to be 38 in June and been suffering from C-PTSD since I was a child and was diagnosed at 17. I restarted therapy recently because I relocated areas and am having trouble and my C-PTSD is horrible since the move. I'm engaged to a great man but we're having problems with the relationship because I can't seem to control my C-PTSD and it's pushing him away. My therapist knows this and is working with. I'm here looking for advice from other suffers on different ways I can try to handle this at home. Please any advice.

 

[Riley Jones]

I'm 37 going to be 38 in June and been suffering from C-PTSD since I was a child and was diagnosed at 17. I restarted therapy recently because I relocated areas and am having trouble and my C-PTSD is horrible since the move. I'm engaged to a great man but we're having problems with the relationship because I can't seem to control my C-PTSD and it's pushing him away. My therapist knows this and is working with. I'm here looking for advice from other suffers on different ways I can try to handle this at home. Please any advice.

Welcome to myptsd.com. I'm truly sorry to hear about the difficult time you're experiencing right now, but I'm glad you're reaching out for support. Moving to a new area can indeed trigger symptoms and amplify feelings associated with C-PTSD, and it's understandable that it might put a strain on your relationship. You're taking a strong and positive step by continuing therapy, and myptsd.com can be an excellent place for peer support and advice.

In the forums here, you'll find members who have been through similar challenges and can offer insights and strategies they've found helpful. People in the community often share how they manage stress and relationship issues related to C-PTSD, offering perspectives that could resonate with your experiences.

You might find it helpful to explore the sections dedicated to relationships and emotional regulation, as they provide specific discussions on ways to cope with relationship issues and emotional struggles stemming from C-PTSD. Remember, each journey is unique, and the strategies that help one person might differ for another, but sharing and learning from each other can be incredibly valuable.

In addition to reaching out here, continuing open and honest communication with your fiancé, supported by professional guidance, can also be beneficial. Let him know how you're feeling and what you're going through so he can better understand your journey.

Please feel free to explore and contribute to the discussions here, and always consider seeking professional help when you need it. You're not alone, and many in this community are willing to support you.

 

[aweaber]

Welcome to myptsd.com. I'm truly sorry to hear about the difficult time you're experiencing right now, but I'm glad you're reaching out for support. Moving to a new area can indeed trigger symptoms and amplify feelings associated with C-PTSD, and it's understandable that it might put a strain on your relationship. You're taking a strong and positive step by continuing therapy, and myptsd.com can be an excellent place for peer support and advice.

In the forums here, you'll find members who have been through similar challenges and can offer insights and strategies they've found helpful. People in the community often share how they manage stress and relationship issues related to C-PTSD, offering perspectives that could resonate with your experiences.

You might find it helpful to explore the sections dedicated to relationships and emotional regulation, as they provide specific discussions on ways to cope with relationship issues and emotional struggles stemming from C-PTSD. Remember, each journey is unique, and the strategies that help one person might differ for another, but sharing and learning from each other can be incredibly valuable.

In addition to reaching out here, continuing open and honest communication with your fiancé, supported by professional guidance, can also be beneficial. Let him know how you're feeling and what you're going through so he can better understand your journey.

Please feel free to explore and contribute to the discussions here, and always consider seeking professional help when you need it. You're not alone, and many in this community are willing to support you.

Thank you

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the forum.

Moving home would have been incredibly stressful - makes sense that your symptoms have flared up again. Hopefully as routines get established and your support network rebuilds, it will help ease some of that of its own accord.

Perhaps building in some additional self-care routines might give that a push in the right direction?

 

[arfie]

hello aweabear. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

i'm 70 going on 71. when i got married in 1980, the most popular name for my condition was, "just plain crazy." the ptsd moniker didn't coalesce until the turn of the millennium. i often think psychotherapy was easier without all the fixed theories and therapy, but it does help the dialogue between hubs and i to have a more pat name for ^it^.

separating my marriage and my psychotherapy has been my strongest tool in making my relationship work. i don't keep secrets or disregard the times my psychoses (pl) hurt and/or confuse him, but i insist that hubs let me trust my therapy network, whether he agrees with them, or not. i'm not your DIY project love. don't try to fix me. an advantage we have found in that approach is that carrying my psychotic episodes to my therapy network saves allot of wear and tear on our relationship. running a domestic partnership is already challenging enough without the added confusion of mental illness.

but that is me and every case is unique. every marriage is even more unique.

steadying support while you find what works for you. welcome aboard.

 

[aweaber]

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hello aweabear. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

i'm 70 going on 71. when i got married in 1980, the most popular name for my condition was, "just plain crazy." the ptsd moniker didn't coalesce until the turn of the millennium. i often think psychotherapy was easier without all the fixed theories and therapy, but it does help the dialogue between hubs and i to have a more pat name for ^it^.

separating my marriage and my psychotherapy has been my strongest tool in making my relationship work. i don't keep secrets or disregard the times my psychoses (pl) hurt and/or confuse him, but i insist that hubs let me trust my therapy network, whether he agrees with them, or not. i'm not your DIY project love. don't try to fix me. an advantage we have found in that approach is that carrying my psychotic episodes to my therapy network saves allot of wear and tear on our relationship. running a domestic partnership is already challenging enough without the added confusion of mental illness.

but that is me and every case is unique. every marriage is even more unique.

steadying support while you find what works for you. welcome aboard.

Thank you, I have not tried psychotherapy at this point.

 

[arfie]

I have not tried psychotherapy at this point.

i consider the first alanon meeting i attended in 1972 to be the start of my psychotherapy. if alateen had been available, i would have started there, but alanon is what was available. it took some years beyond that to get pros involved and the pro involvement never did manage to help as much as my peer support network. i think of the pros as reference books. they are chockful of good information, but they never leave the library and my goal is to get them back on the shelves as quickly as possible.

my peer supporters are the ones who help me understand all that good information and ply it to daily life. they are the ones who have my back in the trenches while the pros are playing golf.

 

[aweaber]

i consider the first alanon meeting i attended in 1972 to be the start of my psychotherapy. if alateen had been available, i would have started there, but alanon is what was available. it took some years beyond that to get pros involved and the pro involvement never did manage to help as much as my peer support network. i think of the pros as reference books. they are chockful of good information, but they never leave the library and my goal is to get them back on the shelves as quickly as possible.

my peer supporters are the ones who help me understand all that good information and ply it to daily life. they are the ones who have my back in the trenches while the pros are playing golf.

Thank you I appreciate the information. I really don't have much of a support system at home. My fiance and my parents have no understanding of C-PTSD and what it does to a person.

 

[arfie]

I really don't have much of a support system at home.

loved ones make such lousy therapists that universities pound in the adage, "do not attempt to treat friends and family members. help them AS friends and family members." i have sibs-in-healing who were born into pro psych families and they, too, heal more cleanly with outside support. it takes a village to live a healthy life.

My fiance and my parents have no understanding of C-PTSD and what it does to a person

i don't believe it is possible to understand ptsd unless you suffer ptsd. even then, ptsd is god-awful hard to understand. personally, i hope my loved ones NEVER have the basis to understand. i wouldn't wish this understanding on ANYONE. butttttaaaa, butttttaaaa, butttttaaaa...... the esoteric obscurity of it all makes me all the more grateful for the sibs-in-healing who DO understand and the professional reference books who take the time to study our condition.