Relationship He's Finally Communicating

[Seeking]

Finally after almost 4 weeks of not really responding to my text and us not seeing each other or talking, today my vet sent me text letting me know he missed me, and we actually engaged in back and forth "normal " text. I have learned a lot about isolating and it's hard to handle. For those that are still being isolated, they will come around when they are ready. I just continued to pray and send him encouraging messages. I also took care of me, at least I tried to. I ask for continued prayer and we have to be patient and loving. I believe in my vet and our love. Next time, because there will be a next time, I pray I'm better prepared. I love this man, PTSD and all, he's made just for me, and I for him.

 

[Buttercup]

I'm happy for ya! It is very hard to deal with. I'm glad he's back.

 

[TheMinsterman]

Glad to hear that Seeking, good luck!

 

[PatientFaith]

I'm glad that you are both communicating again! :)

 

[WhisperingUnicorn]

today my vet sent me text letting me know he missed me, and we actually engaged in back and forth "normal " text. I have learned a lot about isolating and it's hard to handle. ...I just continued to pray and send him encouraging messages. I also took care of me, at least I tried to. I ask for continued prayer and we have to be patient and loving.

I am SO happy to hear this for you! During the times of difficulty, we (as this site calls us "supporters") have to be really intentional about REMINDING ourselves of the things that made us "believe in our love" in the first place - the CORE, the HEART of the man was not a lie, it was not some fantasy or wishful thinking - I can REMIND myself of real things he DID that proved his heart - I have a few "go to" memories I call up when I am tempted to doubt .. Cuz it is the CHARACTER of the man that keeps him overcoming.

Today, I pray for BOTH of you as you push through this tough window. I am so heartened to see another couple wrestling with this, and that you as one in a similar position to me can also so heartily stay committed to trusting the heart of the man. It is one thing for us that overrides all else, yes I KNOW "he is worth it" - as trite as that might sound. I "know" this because he's proven himself time and again - despite our rough patches.

Keep the faith, sister. :)

~WU

 

[Seeking]

I am SO happy to hear this for you! During the times of difficulty, we (as this site calls u...

@WhisperingUnicorn , thank you. I continued to pray and put my trust in God. I never gave up! I needed to learn about this condition and make sure I knew what to do and thar was pray and love. I had to take my hands off and ask God to help him. Don't give up! The best thing that we can do is educate ourselves about PTSD and seek God before we act. It was so easy for me , before learning about PTSD to take things personal and respond to what I was feeling. PTSD is so serious, more serious than I thought. As a matter of fact, I just learned about a guy that sufferered from PTSD was shot and killed by police this weekend. He was on meds but sufferered tremendously from this condition. PTSD is terrible and cab literally destroy lives. I pray that my prayers cover my love and I have to remember that love is patient and kind. Praying for you and your love. God is in control.

 

[WhisperingUnicorn]

I had to take my hands off and ask God to help him. Don't give up! The best thing that we can do is educate ourselves about PTSD and seek God before we act. It was so easy for me , before learning about PTSD to take things personal and respond to what I was feeling.

Oy, I am right there with you!! I had no idea how much I needed to work on MYSELF when we started this journey. I suppose ANY relationship will do that - we all have to mature and adjust and adapt as we go. But that "taking things personal" aspect is one difficult beast to overcome! ;) At least it was for me!

Yes, and you're exactly right - yielding my husband up to GOD'S care is far greater! HE was the one that brought us together. HE was the one who MADE my husband, and made US "right for each other" in the first place! HE desires my husband's wholeness, happiness, and healing far more than I ever could. Trusting HIS good purposes and yielding my "desire for control" is itself a needed maturing. ;)

~WU

 

[WhisperingUnicorn]

(.. re taking things personal .. was and IS still for me. *blush*)

 

[PatientFaith]

I am SO happy to hear this for you! During the times of difficulty, we (as this site calls u...

Thank you for that post! It was exactly what I needed to read today! I know where my Vet's heart and intent are, even if he cannot be there right now for so many reasons. I'm so proud of him for taking the time to work on himself so that he can be a more active part of a relationship and feel more like himself again. They are worth it. And your strength is incredible

 

[Deleted member 39414]

Congratulations for hanging in there not knowing when you would hear from him. I wish you two the best. Very encouraging!! I wish we all could be that fortunate. :)

 

[Mariposa Verde]

@Serendipity424 this is one of the threads I read before. WhisperingUnicorn advice and experience might resonate with you like they did with me.

 

[Serendipity424]

@Serendipity424 this is one of the threads I read before. WhisperingUnicorn a...

Thank you, this makes me feel so much hope. I am actually having an emotional day, I miss our conversations so much. I will continue to hope and pray everyday for all of us and hope some day these can be answered xoxo