Sufferer Hi, Sadly A New Member

[HaylieFlow]

Hi,
As you can imagine, I'm new to this forum. I've suffered a hard hit a couple of weeks ago I got separated in July following years of verbal abuse and toxic relationship. I found myself a new.apartment, I was finally free but after only a couple of days I felt really unsafe for me and my kids to be in that new place... so I went back to live temporarily with my ex.... things were doing ok I had met someone, I was supposed to move a couple of days later to a new apartment but then my ex searches through my stuff and found out I had met someone (I had seen him only once). That same day, he proposed to me, I turned down his offer of course then he left to see one of his friend, he was mad but I'd never have thought how mad he was.... I got to bed and the next thing I remember is waking up in the hospital , having no clue why I'm there a cop came to talk to me a couple of hours later... my car had been found on the bridge.... my ex was missing. All the dots connected then. With the help of the doctors and the police I now know he tried to kill me by strangulation, raped me then took off and jumped off the bridge.... I don't remember a thing yet but I'm messed up. I'm having memory problems and I'm stressed out about flashbacks I might have. So.... that's my story, I'm glad I've found this forum I've been looking for one for a couple of days. It's not something that happens to most people and no one understands.

 

[EveHarrington]

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So sorry----- Welcome to the forum.

 

[Deleted member 34328]

Oh my Gosh!!! What a nightmare!

I really don't know what to say. No great words of wisdom, but I'm glad you found the forum too. It's a great community. People listen for real and care.

 

[Enaila]

Welcome to the forum. I know what it was like to live with an abusive husband and how hard, as well as scary, it was to be on my own raising two boys. I had to move to protect them and myself. My ex died many years ago from his poor choices. I can't say I know what you are going through as only you know that. I can say if you continue to reach out for help the healing will be easier.

If you don't already have a therapist, I'd encourage you to check into one. He/she can help you try to make sense of your ex's senseless acts. The therapist can also assist for when the memories do return.

 

[hodge]

Welcome, Haylie. We understand, hon. I've been raped and in life-threatening situations, though no one ever caused me to be as close to death as you came. Thank God you're alive. Please do find a therapist. This is too much to go through on your own. Hopefully, if you can start processing it soon you won't have flashbacks.

 

[Sherry]

Welcome to the Forum Haylie, I am really happy for you that you have found us here. Everyone here has been very supportive and understanding to me since I joined a week ago. I feel sure that you will find the same.

Verbal and emotional abuse from a partner, I totally understand Haylie. And I feel for you. The rest of what you have had to endure over the past couple of weeks, I cannot even imagine. But I do know what the after effects from a violent rape are like.

As some of the others before me have said ... I also strongly advise you to find some psychological help asap. It may help you to process what has happened, and possibly prevent it from becoming a far bigger problem for you in the longer term. Early intervention is the best option.

My thoughts are with you Haylie, and please take care.