So today is my vet's birthday. I kinda knew it would be rough. "Special" days usually are.
I asked him what kind of birthday cake he would like and he said a tiramisu. I don't drink coffee - hate the taste of it - but spent hours over the weekend making him a tiramisu cake. He ate two big pieces last night and said it was delicious. Unfortunately, the coffee kept him awake all night. At some stage in the night he rolled over and accidentally pulled the covers off me. I was sort of awake anyway but it was cold and I mumbled something like "friggin hell" as I snuggled back into the covers. He took that to mean that I was swearing at him for keeping him awake and the next thing he grabs a blanket out of the cupboard and goes and lies on the couch. (We have a spare room with a very comfy spare bed!) Other times I have gone and got him and insisted he come back to bed but I was almost asleep again and I thought he was just getting some alone time so I left him.
When I got up in the morning he was lying on the lounge room floor wrapped in a blanket. When I tried to give him a cuddle and say happy birthday he grunted at me and said he was trying to sleep. I got ready for work and then tried again. He said he didn't want his present until this evening and gave me a kiss and told me to go before I was late for work. I got him to open his present and lay with him on the floor for a couple of minutes and then went to work. He apologised for keeping me awake and said in future he will sleep in the spare room.
When I got to work I sent a text saying I got there safe (I do that every morning). He replied "Sorry I kept you awake." I called him and he seemed ok - but a little distant. He says he doesn't want to go out for dinner tonight anymore. I offered to bring take away home for him and he said "no, I'm fine really".
Sigh! I try really hard to make his birthday special without going over the top. I'm upset that he seems to be holding me accountable for a mumbled half asleep comment when he has told me to "F*ck off" when he is having an episode and I'm not supposed to be upset by that. I feel like tonight is going to be exhausting and that whatever I do for dinner will be wrong.
Any suggestions as to what to do would be gratefully received.
I asked him what kind of birthday cake he would like and he said a tiramisu. I don't drink coffee - hate the taste of it - but spent hours over the weekend making him a tiramisu cake. He ate two big pieces last night and said it was delicious. Unfortunately, the coffee kept him awake all night. At some stage in the night he rolled over and accidentally pulled the covers off me. I was sort of awake anyway but it was cold and I mumbled something like "friggin hell" as I snuggled back into the covers. He took that to mean that I was swearing at him for keeping him awake and the next thing he grabs a blanket out of the cupboard and goes and lies on the couch. (We have a spare room with a very comfy spare bed!) Other times I have gone and got him and insisted he come back to bed but I was almost asleep again and I thought he was just getting some alone time so I left him.
When I got up in the morning he was lying on the lounge room floor wrapped in a blanket. When I tried to give him a cuddle and say happy birthday he grunted at me and said he was trying to sleep. I got ready for work and then tried again. He said he didn't want his present until this evening and gave me a kiss and told me to go before I was late for work. I got him to open his present and lay with him on the floor for a couple of minutes and then went to work. He apologised for keeping me awake and said in future he will sleep in the spare room.
When I got to work I sent a text saying I got there safe (I do that every morning). He replied "Sorry I kept you awake." I called him and he seemed ok - but a little distant. He says he doesn't want to go out for dinner tonight anymore. I offered to bring take away home for him and he said "no, I'm fine really".
Sigh! I try really hard to make his birthday special without going over the top. I'm upset that he seems to be holding me accountable for a mumbled half asleep comment when he has told me to "F*ck off" when he is having an episode and I'm not supposed to be upset by that. I feel like tonight is going to be exhausting and that whatever I do for dinner will be wrong.
Any suggestions as to what to do would be gratefully received.
