Holidays/Christmas Are Triggering For Me - How Do I Cope?

[Mina]

Pixie, I merged your thread with another recent one on the same topic so all can benefit from having a great discussion in one place! :smile:

 

[Pixie]

Oh, I'm so excited! I figured out a way to celebrate without using the triggering decorations etc...

Outside I found tall metal thing that we were going to use for a creeper to grow on but the plant never took, and so, I thought about it and I'm going to use it to make my very own "Present Tree".

I found some cute animal type decorations that I can hang on it and instead of tinsel or lights or anything, I'm going to attach lengths of some really nice ribbon so that when we buy a little present, we can hang it on the "Present Tree" and watch it "grow" over the next month.

The meaning of the tree for me is two fold, "Present" as in gifts (which in anyones book is exciting!) and also "Present" as in the here and now... a little reminder for me to stay present during this otherwise triggering time of year.

Anyway, once I get it done and all fixed up, I'll see if I can take a photo for you all to see...

I'm so excited!!! :occasion:

Pixie

 

[Pixie]

So here is a picture of my "Present Tree"... it doesn't look like much right now but hopefully it will look a bit better once it starts to grow!

Pixie

 

[onebravegirl]

I had a nightmare pregnancy with my daughter. She had genetic disorder. Tons of tests and procedures done on me. She died at birth.
If your baby didn't die I would suggest using it as a way of reminding yourself that all your efforts and physical challenges at least gave you a beautiful child. Count your blessings Flower.:Hug_emoticon:
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[Nicky31]

So here is a picture of my "Present Tree"... it doesn't look like much right now but hopefully it will look a bit better once it starts to grow!

Pixie

I think it's marvellous and will be perfect for the job :thumbs-up

 

[goingonhope]

:hello: Hi greenunflower,

What with Christmas close by, I thought I'd bring this thread forward.

As for preparing for anything when it comes to emotional healing, less thought and effort and more just allowing yourself to enjoy and be, (thus less worry and expended energies), will go a long way.

Tap into putting forth daily positive actions.

Decide what you enjoy doing and can and set out to do it right away, provided it is going to add to building the foundation and structure you desire.

With intentional stress-reducing techniques into action daily and ASAP will improve the energy you'll have and perhaps save some reserves, while not cementing, nor worrying about upcoming anniversaries.

Note and celebrate exclusively marriage vows, and any other spectacular times in life.

When keeping track of anything else and anticipating preparation for such beforehand, we are unwittingly setting ourselves up for pain, IMO.

If I had done this regularly, not a day would go by that I'd ever find peace from myself, any enjoyment and freedom from grief.

Now come Sept. 2010, I'll be applying my own suggestion again surrounding something fairly recent and traumatic, because it falls out of the area of any familiarity with that such experience.

Greenunflower, One Moment, Hour(s) And Day At A Time,........this past Sept. my children almost became fatherless and motherless just like that.

Enjoy when you can and please take care.


Wishing My Best for You and Loved Ones, this upcoming Holiday.