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I am living in the same house that me and my ex partner lived in. I have two dogs, which me and my ex partner got together. It was her idea to get them, but because she is studying at University she tells me that she cannot take the dogs because of her schedule. Over here in NZ it is hard to find houses to rent that accept dogs.
I have recently got a flatmate which has been helpful financially but I'm really starting to struggle with a few things. I am really starting to get annoyed with him being there all the time. He sits in the living room, all he does is watch TV, play Playstation, play games on his laptop, smoke weed, all in the living room. The rational part of my mind says that he pays half of everything round here therefore he is entitled to do so, the angry annoyed part of my brain (dare I say it, the mis-wired part) has taken over and honestly I just want him gone sometimes.
I'm starting to act aggressively towards the dogs too lately, which is not good and fair on them. A friend of mine has told me that I should look into re-homing them and move out, possibly into a boarding house or somethiing like that. That seems like a good idea. But I am trying to get over the massive emotional hurdle of the heart strings that are tied up with the dogs (I would miss them to be fair, but I would also not miss having to care for them - that sounds callous and lazy to me, but again I don't know if that's the miswired part of my brain going ape**** at me).
I'm honestly starting to go out of my tiny little mind, I know what to do, but I am having major difficulty with handling the emotional side of things.
Also her car is still parked in my driveway, I asked her to remove it recently, she came back with an email saying that she will remove it once she hears back from me as to when "the payments" will be restarted. This is related to the asset split, she said that given I have the majority of the property (debateable) that I should pay her out for her share of the asset. I don't want to do this. I extended 20k on the mortgage so she could have private surgery, money that I never saw back. When the house was sold to cover debt, I had very little equity left so that was a major loss. And honestly I don't think she deserves it given she physically and emotionally abused me.
I feel cut into peices at the moment. The smallest thing feels like the straw that broke the camels back. I don't know how much of this is PTSD and how much of this is me just not wanting to handle things and being affected by an ostrich syndrome sort of thing. I know I need some serious help because if things continue the way they do I don't know if I'll be around for much longer.
I'm not sure why I'm posting this, I guess I'm looking for answers - yet I have answered my own post in a manner of speaking. It always helps to get an external view though.
Thanks
M
I have recently got a flatmate which has been helpful financially but I'm really starting to struggle with a few things. I am really starting to get annoyed with him being there all the time. He sits in the living room, all he does is watch TV, play Playstation, play games on his laptop, smoke weed, all in the living room. The rational part of my mind says that he pays half of everything round here therefore he is entitled to do so, the angry annoyed part of my brain (dare I say it, the mis-wired part) has taken over and honestly I just want him gone sometimes.
I'm starting to act aggressively towards the dogs too lately, which is not good and fair on them. A friend of mine has told me that I should look into re-homing them and move out, possibly into a boarding house or somethiing like that. That seems like a good idea. But I am trying to get over the massive emotional hurdle of the heart strings that are tied up with the dogs (I would miss them to be fair, but I would also not miss having to care for them - that sounds callous and lazy to me, but again I don't know if that's the miswired part of my brain going ape**** at me).
I'm honestly starting to go out of my tiny little mind, I know what to do, but I am having major difficulty with handling the emotional side of things.
Also her car is still parked in my driveway, I asked her to remove it recently, she came back with an email saying that she will remove it once she hears back from me as to when "the payments" will be restarted. This is related to the asset split, she said that given I have the majority of the property (debateable) that I should pay her out for her share of the asset. I don't want to do this. I extended 20k on the mortgage so she could have private surgery, money that I never saw back. When the house was sold to cover debt, I had very little equity left so that was a major loss. And honestly I don't think she deserves it given she physically and emotionally abused me.
I feel cut into peices at the moment. The smallest thing feels like the straw that broke the camels back. I don't know how much of this is PTSD and how much of this is me just not wanting to handle things and being affected by an ostrich syndrome sort of thing. I know I need some serious help because if things continue the way they do I don't know if I'll be around for much longer.
I'm not sure why I'm posting this, I guess I'm looking for answers - yet I have answered my own post in a manner of speaking. It always helps to get an external view though.
Thanks
M
