How Am I Suppose To Discuss These Issues If This Is The Response I Get?

[Shellbell]

I agree with Gizmo, very wise lady with very wise words and advice.

 

[Srain]

My husband ended up going down to the pharmacy with my bottles and they still insisted that my pdoc had said not to fill them for another week when she had called, so he returned with "picked and paid" print-out that shows later dates that the actual "filled" dates and no meds. He called her office and spoke to the secretary explaining the problem and left a message for the dr to call us back.

I was beside myself because it made no sense that she would give me the prescriptions and not anything about not being able to not fill them just yet, especially since she was being so verbal about everything else. Yet the pharmacy was insisting this was the case.

By 8pm last night the pdoc called back telling my husband she had just spoken to the pharmacy instructing them to fill my prescriptions.

I called my pharmacy and asked for the pharmacist, I asked him if my doctor had called about holding the medication, he said "yes" when she had said to not fill the meds too early. I told him I had been in her office during that call and there was no mention of holding my medication. He began speaking over me about how she just called so I let it go.

I chose a new pharmacy, one closer, now that I was sure there would no conflict with my pdoc at this time. I am currently looking for a new pdoc.
I got the best sleep I've had in a week.

And they can all kiss my a.........

 

[Rumors]

That sucks. I am appauled at her behavior. I guess I would have had to ask what it is she is accusing me of so that she would have been forced to look me in the eye and be clear about her misguided perception. Then, I would have probably said something I would have regretted and left, while giving her the finger on my way out. However, I think your approach is much more sane and mature! Lol.

Very sorry you had that happen. It is saddening when people don't listen bc often times they are jumping to conclusions that simply aren't true and they miss out on the bigger picture. You went there for help, but instead received misappropriated and hostile anger from someone who was supposed to be trusted and safe. I think a letter stating your feelings and what actually transpired would be most appropriate so that you can have closure to the situation. Not to mention, since she was obviously not listening, your chance to simply set the record straight.

Best wishes! Keep the faith!

 

[Tanishq]

Srain I don't understand why she is up-to accusing things and keeping you up and down about the situation.

I hope you find a new good doctor who addresses your issues well and from there you continue getting help. No more unwanted mind boggling situations.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am so glad that you are getting a new doc. Good for you. Big hugs.

 

[Meadowsweet]

It all sounds very suspicious rain, I'm sorry you have had to go through this.

It really is not your problem at all. I hope you will find a new pdoc who can put you first.

Wishing you lots of strength.

 

[Srain]

Rumors, she did say out out during exchange (without looking at me nor asking me directly - or my husband whom she seems to believe is the beacon of truth in the relationship!) that she didn't know if I was "selling these medications, sharing them, or what" to which I responded a resounding
"WHAT?!"
Still no direct eye contact with ME she says "people do this" (I'm not an idiot, I understand they do but I've built a history with her and my pdoc for 3 yrs prior to her - without incident) and I said, "well NOT ME so if you look me in the eye I will tell you that without hesitation! I, can't believe you are saying this to me!" She never did ask me directly.

So I have had to come down from the frustration, anger, sleep deprivation, and unwarranted accusations all built on my oversight and a shrink's paranoia. It's a shame - time and energy wasted but a cold reminder.

Thank you for your support and for allowing me to get this out.

 

[Shellbell]

I would be incredibly upset and distressed if my doc said any of that to me. I'm glad you're feeling better about it, but you had every right to feel all of what you did over that.

Definitely time for a new pdoc. I hope you find a really great one!

 

[maddog]

Gosh, Srain, the more you reveal of this appalling story, the more horrified I become. To make unfounded serious allegations against you, based on absolutely nothing, and to refuse to speak directly to you, are absolute deal breakers even without anything else. This is beyond upsetting, this is blatantly inappropriate and constitutes clear medical misconduct in my opinion. For your own sake, I hope you are able to detach completely and quickly from this toxic person and find a doc who is able to support you more ethically.

This conduct ought to be prosecuted, nothing short of it. i'm not suggesting that be your battle unless you want it to be of course, but for such behaviour to continue unchecked is a law suit waiting to happen, and the sooner the better. And this from someone who never even usually thinks of such things!

Really hope you're taking care of yourself, you are what counts here.

Maddog

 

[rightkindofme]

I don't use prescription meds because I can't deal with the humiliation. I'm so sorry you are being treated this way. You don't deserve it.

Does she have a supervisor you can talk to?

 

[Srain]

Fortunately my support team reminds me that confrontation (such as what my rage suggests :cautious:) wouldn't make any difference and to continue to rest, move away from this situation, and continue to believe in myself.

Her words, her reaction goes to the very core of many of my "mommy issues" so stepping back and taking the very best care of myself is what I need to do.

Again...your support and feedback means more to me than I can I properly convey. Thank you!

Rain

 

[Bill Dickerson]

I've had my run ins with medical professionals. Everything from bizarre behavior to really bad advise.

The first Dr. I went to when I really got sick acted in strange ways. Each time I went into the office he acted like he had a different personality. He kept refusing to change my meds even after the out patient clinic called him. He kept confusing me with someone else. I received some really bad advise from a (T) when I wanted to go to the trial for the murder of a partner. She told me if I went she wouldn't see me anymore. Needless to say I was really confused and not long after I changed (Ts).

I think it's important to be proactive in your own treatment and I wouldn't hesitate in finding another doctor if I needed to. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the good ones.