I am late in answering this too, and I have not read anyone else's reply except blackemerald's right before mine.
It was slow going. A lot of therapy. Several in patient hospital visits. Saying BYE to some abusive people. (Or in one case, running away from him and leaving ALL my belongings behind, except for a few things I retrieved with back-up and protection there to see to it that I was not harmed).
Being on these Forums has helped a lot. Asking Q.s and getting A.s. Some of the advice given I did not take. You have to pick out what works for you and leave the rest. In your heart of hearts, you will know what is good advice and what isn't. Sometimes it takes a lot of questions. I got there eventually.
As to getting a job. One kind of fell into my lap. It is the perfect job for me and it came at the right time. I prayed a lot too. That is really important. No one can give you better advice than God. It was Him that told me to get a job. I asked around a bit and BINGO, there was the perfect job for me. Not too difficult. Not too demanding. I am what is called a Senior Companion. I help an elderly person. I don't do housework or anything like that. I just keep the person company. That is all that is needed for this person.
As to taking care of me. I make sure to eat 3 meals per day, bathe regularly and so on. I make myself do these things. Sometimes I do not want to. Other times I just know that I need to.