Childhood Planing To Become Finantially Independent - How Did You Manage To Get Of An Unhappy Home?

[Freedomfighter]

Hello everyone. My name is Jenna (well not my real name, but you get it) and I wanted some advise. I'...

Well, I have a simple answer to that one. I went cold turkey to get away from everyone that hurt me. I work my ass off to stay financially independent and yes, predators will use money to get control of you, including family members.

I have tons of student loans and I am paying them as good as I can. But I have a great education that I am proud of and the will to make something happen with my knowledge. I pretty much just jumped in, did not let it bother me that I will probably have to pay those for the rest of my life, but if I do not risk anything....... how could I possibly gain anything?

I am a stalking survivor, have fears of unstable people because I have to deal with so many of them, especially a lot of females who attempt to connect me to so many outlandish scenarios you would think they write for one of those Hollywood smut magazines. Disgusting, I want to connect to people and talk to people I like, I want to be able to just talk to someone without any of those dumb broads interfering. I want to connect with smart and capable people and learn from them without the street slime blocking me.

 

[Socha]

People who failed at chem, unite :D. Now it seems reasonable to blame it on PTSD with all of us having the same experience with chem.
I failed chem for bio. Here, it's the same chem course as for med students and they were screening out too but I'm so happy they did. I'm studying geography now and I wouldn't want to do anything else in this world!

It's hard to work full time when you're doing a college course! But I do work every summer to have my own money. Where did you work at?

I know it's hard. Even part-time is a lot. I needed to get away from home and away from the streets so working full-time was the only option for me at that time. I worked as a programmer and used to regret not having the chance to go to university like most of my friends with great or normal families but that's what I'm doing now and programming skills are helping a lot with my studies and also will for finding a job. I would never have guessed.
I couldn't work last year because my symptoms were too much to handle and I needed all my energy for university. I'm doing better now, my grades are really good because I love what I do and I will start a job as a student assistant at my university in January. Those student assistance jobs are also a great networking opportunity and they don't interfere with my student loans. Maybe there are similar regulations for your scholarship too.

I think a huge part of why I'm a lot better now is the fact that I feel like I have a future and can do what I love and am good at. Like hodge said, focus on university, surround yourself with positive and supportive friends and stay away from your family as much as you need to feel better. Staying away from toxic people is legitimate even if they are your closest family. It doesn't matter what diagnosis you'll get. The same applies for depression and other mental health problems.

 

[user27357]

...but this is rude considering the fact that English is her second language.

Yes it was rude and I apologize.

Here is some real advice-

You are 19, you have a long time to catch back up if you cant do school right now. The other side of that coin is that you are 19 and ther may never be an easier time to get that education.

Weigh this against:

You are 19, you are responsible only to yourself and can probably tolerate almost anything including a very low standard of living or having to get financial help. The other side of that coin is the possibility that being exposed to abuse, especially from a family member, can scar yoiu for life and tolerating it is a choice that will affect future relationships and possibly the childhood of your own kids someday.

It was an eashy choice for me, I was suffering abuse and there was no tolerating it any longer, financialy ready or not. I left at 14, I wish I had left sooner. In todays world I could have been put in foster homes.

I have never learned a second language other than computer code or being able to read music and blueprints. I missed that you were multilingual and I was too croitical and rude. Sorry

 

[Angela Corgan]

I got a babysitting job and a room connected to it. Freedom. Try nannying, house keeping anything where accommodate comes with it. Or as mentioned be a full time student.