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How Do I Have The Courage To Tell My Friend I Failed Without Believing Im Nothing But A Failure?

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Yeah, I actually figure it would take them a few days for the church to decide.

I trust this couple that is giving away the car to be reliable and legit. I somehow can't seem to bring myself to ask them to wait a few days.... Trying to figure out why.

I think I am scared of asking them to trust me that I would take on the additional cost of waiting a few more days, especially because maybe I'll fail again.

There are too many factors out of my hands to be able to say 100 percent I can do this in a few days.

Oh, this is helpful to know that my resistance is about my lack of trust in me and fear in asking anyone to risk investing in me. This suddenly makes so much sense.

I'm still thinking it through and trying to get the courage. They are getting super anxious to have someone take possession of the car.

I'm beginning to think maybe I need to let this go and find a better option? Or maybe I need to ask them and see if they are willing to risk? If they don't want to stay friends that's ok, they live far away now - so somehow it's not so much about losing the relationship but that I care about them and I loathe the fact of anyone else going through any stress or risk on my behalf. This is a core issue I have been working on in therapy lately, and once again, it rasies it's ugly head.

I don't really have any at the moment. I keep telling myself life won't always be this way.
 
I could be wrong. To me, this seems like I this is a way bigger problem in your head than it is anywhere else.

How much does the impound lot charge per day?

YOU seem like an excellent risk, to me. Trust me, I've loaned money to people I KNEW weren't going to pay me back. You're so worried about letting anyone down, I KNOW you'd be good for the money. At least in this part of the world, most people understand that things happen and anyone can be short of funds now & then. "Failure" has nothing to do with it.

I'd say, tell your friends with the car what's going on and see how they want to handle it. It will be ok. (I'd be glad to loan you the money, if we can figure out a way to do it.)
 
Omg. I just got an offer on something I was trying to sell for some time for $500 exactly. I was expecting and asking $350. I just got the check, in hand, and I'm like seriously now RACING to the bank to cash the check and go pick up the car. Trying not to freak out. (Why is everything making me freak out today?). I have just a short time before they close today. I'm so shocked this is happening.
 
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