Sufferer How Do I Save This Mess I Created?

[Cufflinks]

My visit to Combat Stress went well. What a fantastic place.

They're going to have me in to stay for a couple of weeks in August.
They do a six week intensive programme or some 2 week programmes.
It looks like I'll be there for a 2 week session as my Psychologist is ex-Combat Stress and is highly regarded by them.

They're going to let my T carry on and will liaise with her for my progress.

However, if I have to move house before then I expect it will be a six week session as I will have to move out of this area.

At last I've got my diagnosis. PTSD! I'm relieved. I have felt I was going crazy.

I got an email from my wife before I left with some of the examples of my withdrawal, numbing, anger etc.
It was horrible to see things listed like as it sounded like it's non-stop. I handed it over and it's gone in my file. It helped so that's the main thing.

I still have the Ministry of Defence sending their Dr next week but that will only affect a war pension so I'm not that concerned. It would be nice to have a bit more money though.

 

[amethist]

One step at a time with everything Cufflinks, one step at a time.

 

[safenow]

You're doing well, Cufflinks. I"m glad the Combat Stress went well.

 

[Whitneys story]

I am glad the meeting went well. Try not to expect things to happen overnight. The process takes time.

Keep doing your daily routine and reaching out. Journaling will keep you focused. Give yourself a reward, for your accomplishment.

The weekend is getting close, exciting. Hugs, Whitney

 

[Cufflinks]

Thank you.

My treat is a pub quiz with friends. I need to get out more. I hardly ever seem to.

I had one other bit of progress this week. Yesterday, I received about 9 emails from my wife asking me to do various bits of work to some of the websites I wrote for her last year. They were usually forwarded from clients with a one line request that I do the work. No greeting, no name, no please, no thank you.

The work took me several hours to do. Each email was replied to separately when the work had been completed. An explanation of what was done and wishing her a nice day. Normally I would have replied that a please would be nice (as it conflicts with my sense of fairness) and it would all kick off. To handle this as I did, for me was an achievement.

This morning I got a one line thank you!

 

[Whitneys story]

Are you obligated to complete this work for her? What will she do if she has to do it herself?

I am glad you kept your anger at bay but I keep feeling strings are attached to her communication. She is not giving anything.

JMHO use caution for yourself. Hugs, Whitney

 

[Cufflinks]

Are you obligated to complete this work for her? What will she do if she has to do it herself?

I am glad you kept your anger at bay but I keep feeling strings are attached to her communication. She is not giving anything.

I'm not obligated but my boys need feeding. If I can help her to get straight then I will. If I don't do it then she would have to learn. I offered to teach her some time ago but she was always too busy. The offer is still there but I think she's even more stressed than I am now so it's a decent thing to do.

You're completely correct that she's not giving anything. That's why I know she's in a state. It's what she's always done. I've been bullied into a position that I'm always wrong and controlled into a position that I have to please her by giving her what she wants.

I am now in charge of me and the new management recognizes that changes need to be made!!

BTW - I now have 2 separate diagnoses of PTSD! One more to come to get the pension!

 

[Cufflinks]

On the downside. The pub quiz was a mess. I was grouped on a table where one was deaf, one was shy and wouldn't talk and one didn't answer any of the questions. The average not including myself was about 75!

We came last. Hey ho. It was fun and a nice evening all the same. Next time I'll swot up on Welsh translations! (Don't ask)

 

[Whitneys story]

Oh sounds like fun! Any games we can play keep our brains active in a positive manner. Lumosity is a free one on the net.

Unless there is a big monetary gain in the Pub Quiz I would say have fun with it! Laughter can be the best medicine. :tup: Whitney

 

[Cufflinks]

No monetary gain but the prize was Sunday lunch for two.

The irony if I had won!!!

 

[safenow]

Next time I'll swot up on Welsh translations!

Oh my. I used to do some typing for the Welsh Wills project. Not an easy language for sure.

 

[Whitneys story]

Hi Cufflinks, Just thought I would stop by with some hugs! The end of the week end is tough.

If it is ok I will sit with you a bit. I would love to know what all that giggling was about! :hug: Whitney