How Do People Have Lives? Work, Marriage, Children...

[mac]

Hey Batgirl, I didn't mean to possibly misrepresent things. I'll try to clear it up...
The VA system/machine/department here in the US does consider PTSD a very serious illness- because all the Vets claiming PTSD are costing them loads of money, and so does the military here as well- because they will discharge you (or retire you) from active service if your too bad off.

 

[batgirl]

Oh okay thanks mac... I think I knew that, I should have worded my response better. I'm just sort of down on all government agencies at the moment.

 

[beatle_bailey]

Hi Batgirl

many people on this site have Plus you have touched my heart with there courage and strenth ,,, To go on and fight this horrable illness we have with PTSD,,, reading yours and others constant impout + responces to others problems gives me strengh,,
I am constantly trying to motivate myself to do things ,, such as keep my house half way clean + presentable ,not that I have many visitors,, go food shopping join other in going out ,, not that I get many invitations ,, fact is I try to invite others constantly to do stuff ,, mostly they don,t have the time ,, some say I'm out going and yet I still feel quite along at times ,,even find it hard to go on ,, but like you offing myself has never bin an opption, believe that please that is a perminate sullution to a temparary problem,, tho at times what gets in our head seems uncermountable,or imposible to indure ,,, that is why this site has helped me so much ,, we all keep trying again + again you Know I have other suport outlets and I use them to the best of my ability,, and still some days I can hardly gather the ambishtion to take a shower let alone lieve the house ,,
you are not alone ,, niether is anyone else on this site ,, I have heard more truth of heart and mind on this forum than any where else ,,
SO know that this old Ranger is impressed with you and many others here ,, It really takes a lot to impress me ya Know ,,,
keep up the fight :fight: ,,, one day you will feel better ,, no one can say when ,,but it happened for me {cause I do feel way better than I did yrs ago } but it happened in Gods time not mine ,,
They need to invent a hug smiley Phil
:walking:

 

[vcc123]

I suck

Hey Batgirl.. I have a husband & children (poor things) I was an emergency dispatcher for almost 11 years when they fired me cuz I'd run out of sick time cuz of PTSD. Bastards. So I guess in my case, I'm NOT able to work right now.. and its really screwing me up. Its making me question my own identity these days.. I know being a wife and mother are important... but I was used to more and needed more. I have a really hard time with being labeled 'homemaker' on paperwork. Sorry.. wish I had words of wisdom, but I dont.. just my usual word-vomit. Hang in as always.. :dontknow:

 

[batgirl]

Thanks Beatle and Vc... you don't need to say anthing profound, I just appreciate the responses and knowing that other people understand and can relate.

They need to invent a hug smiley

I've seen a hug smiley on other forums... it's animated. I'll see if I can find it. I don't like hugs though. Blech. Only my family dares hug me, and I don't even like that lol.

 

[vcc123]

me too

Batgirl.. dont like hugs huh? Sometimes they're ok, but for the most part, I'm like.. please do not touch me.. this is my space.. that is yours.. please stay in it.. thank you, that is all. :biggrin:

 

[batgirl]

I know what you mean exactly Vc. I don't have that choice in my family though, unfortunately for me they are affectionate and think I need to be hugged. Gag. :)

 

[Jim]

Well. Quite the hardship for you I imagine, dear!

Uncle Jim.

 

[becvan]

:rofl::rofl:

bec

 

[batgirl]

Well. Quite the hardship for you I imagine, dear!

Heyyyy... you're not supposed to be cheeky in my threads!!! You said you wouldn't if I wouldn't! Grrr...

:boxing:

 

[vcc123]

you guys make me smile. thanks. :tongue:

 

[No-Twitch-Tabitha]

Joining the Thread Late

I, too, am not much of a hugger. I feel extremely uncomfortable when strangers want to hug me, and only slightly flummoxed when friends or relatives want to hug me. My sisters for the most part know that I don't hug, so they don't bother me about it. My little relatives (esp. my 7yo niece and her 4yo brother) love to hug, so I'll hug them, but that's about it. I only let people touch me when I'm comfortable with them.

As to having a life, I don't go out much unless I absolutely have to. Sometimes I have to get out of the house before I go stir-crazy. In that case, I just drive around, look at the water, and go home.

I go out to work, school, shopping, the library, the doctor's, etc because I have to (except the library) do it. I don't like asking people to do things or go places for me unless I really have to. I'm into efficiency, so if I'm out doing one thing, and I know I can get another done while I'm out, I do it.