How Do People Have Lives? Work, Marriage, Children...

[batgirl]

I don't let strangers or acquaintances hug me. I will actually back away from them. People really think I'm weird in that respect. But I don't see why I should let people touch me. I don't feel comfortable. I was never sexually abused but I still have a really strong sense of my personal space and don't want it violated.

I think I like my family to hug me sometimes but I don't want to admit it. Other times I don't like it. But as I say, I don't really have a choice one way or the other. My family are all demonstrative type people and they think it's wrong to not be. I know what you mean about kids. I have way less trouble being affectionate with children.

I think it's great you're able to go out to work and school. That's more than I'm able to do at this point. Even if I had to do it, I don't think I would. I feel better doing things with my family around now, they give me some courage, but I do eventually want to learn to do things without their assistance.

 

[No-Twitch-Tabitha]

Even before I was molested, I had a strong sense of my personal space. My older sisters remember that I was quite...they called it "territorial"...when I was very small.

 

[Linda]

Hi Batgirl, I was really touched by your story.
Probably, most people here do or did feel cut off from the society to a different degree. It is hard to say what it depends on, maybe on the severity of trauma and on your personality together.
But I think that if you are able to communicate through the internet, you already not completely cut off from others. Maybe try to interact with prople in other places online? Find something you really like? Something you want to know more about?
Good luck, and my best wishes for you.

 

[vcc123]

I want to LIVE again !!! I've been 'unemployed' for almost a year already!! I've worked my entire life.. this just isn't right. I want life back.. it doesnthave to be just like before, I just want to live instead of exist. Thats all.. :angry-fla

 

[batgirl]

Thanks for the response Linda and welcome to the forum. My next door neighbours are Russian immigrants and they are awesome people. I love their cooking. :) Anyways I'm kind of sick right now but I did want to say welcome and thanks for the response. I appreciate it and hope to talk to you more once I'm better.

And vcc, I totally understand wanting to live again. I feel pretty "un-alive" myself at the moment.