How Do You Deal With Feelings?

[Brontie]

I try to deal with unfamiliar feelings positively. I found that if I do that I remain calm and can then take a closer look at what is going on around me. Works most of the time.

 

[The Albatross]

I am connected to Anger (and rage)... but not to grief and sadness. It would really be good if I could relax enough to reconnect with that and have a good cry.

We'll move through this and get there Reclusive, hang tough.

 

[Reclusive]

You and I should swap, Albatross. From the nightmare I had last night, I'm assuming there's a lot of undealt with anger.

 

[The Albatross]

I'll split the anger with ya, we'll both deal with our rage. In return you can give me half of your grief and sadness, and we'll both deal with our anxieties. Deal?

:O_o:

 

[NIKI]

In my opinion I don't neglect them enough.

I have killed a cactus plant! I love them to death. Didn't want it to dry out, I think I drowned it. :(

 

[Reclusive]

Sounds like a fine deal to me! How do we do this thing?

 

[moondust]

Sorry to hear you are struggling with emotions this week Reclusive. At least, in my experience anger was my predominant emotion for me and I had difficulty expressing sadness. This seems to be getting better for me. When I have difficulty with emotions I usually end up writing about it and feel better able to express myself afterwards. Best of luck negotiating your emotions.
Moondust

 

[Reclusive]

Thank you, Moondust. I write letters to my mother when I can think straight (she's passed, but I still write them because she's the only one that ever truly understood me), but sometimes I can't even find the words for what I'm feeling.

I have managed to tap into a little anger today - I had a horrible nightmare last night and have been listening to Death/Heavy metal all day. I haven't listened to music in a long time because my hunny (also with PTSD) would get emotional, but apparently the angry stuff is okay. I can barely think at this volume.

 

[Learning Curve]

Don't know that the observation helps, but for me it seems like I'm numb almost all the time and then have occasions where emotions just explode into the equation, and I can't think I'm so angry, can't talk because I'm choked up and on the verge of tears, etc. Stuff builds up until it comes out badly and in a massive rush, basically. My goal, and maybe it is something you could look for as well in your situation, is finding some way to vent some of that steam before something triggers a mess.

Now if I just knew how to make that plan work . . .

 

[Reclusive]

I think you're right - the same thing happens to me. It's like suddenly all this emotion hits me and I can't even identify it let alone deal with it!

 

[Nighthawk]

Ditto

 

[Heather]

I have killed a cactus plant!

I killed my cactus too Niki you're not alone!