What does the term "grey rock" mean?
Perhaps it would not. I was replying to Teasel who knows exactly the kind of defenses the annoying person (NPD) uses.I don't understand how this video could help me with her
Yup, exactly. Be nice, be polite, but be firm and walk away before that crap starts.Take no shit.
The adult version of “If you whine? You don’t get what you want.”
Good strategy. We use that with kids in elementary school too. Some kid tearing up the classroom, you go in and say, "What's wrong". They tell you about their soggy cereal and their socks keep falling down, and you say, "I see."ha, ha, hello. if you actually do not like this person and have no desire of being her friend the best option is grey rocking. this pretty much works on any person but it is specefically recommended for cluster b. essentelly it is do not react. do not reach out on your own. nod and say "m-hm" or "yes i see."
do not offer any things that creates emotionel burden of you. (i.e. support, things like that.) some times i just say "oh i see what you mean." and then move on. for exampel i had had people at my old job "oh my god this boss is awful terrible! wah! what do you think!" i say "mm. i see." "what do you mean you see? what?" "mm. you sound pretty frustrated." "yeah. omg. balalal." "i see." they get bored and move on.
here is an articel about it. (some of it is quite stigmatizing toward certain disorders. but the metheds included which is the only real articel i found that goes into detail of the methods.) it's not the whole story but essentelly becoming non-emoteve and non-interacteve.