How does one stay married?

[Punky143]

My husband loves me very much. But, the way his brain and mine work is so different. He thinks in more simplistic terms more around solid facts. I on the other hand think in terms of emotion and past experiences. And, I have DID, Borderline Personality, PTSD, GAD, MDD, hx eating disorder. I do believe that is who I am to him. He tells me to get over things, don't think too much, I'm not allowed to just quit. Mixed in with that is sympathy, and care. But, it can be used against me later on. As my T and I venture into my trauma history, (hidden)it makes everything else seem impossible. Especially with my husband. I don't like to be touched accident or not and my husband is the opposite. I don't have any idea how I'm going to do this, again.

 

[DharmaGirl]

I couldn't stay married so I'm no help. I don't envy your situation. Perhaps he could come to a therapy session with you?

 

[hodge]

My hubs and I have been together for 21 years, married for 15. When you wrote that his sometime kindness is used against you later on, a red flag went off for me. My husband never does that to me. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. It's definitely possible to stay married with all our conditions, but with the right person. I wish you the best in therapy (((@Punky123)))

 

[Wjk]

My husband loves me very much. But, the way his brain and mine work is so different. He thinks in more...

I think I can relate to what you are saying. Communication between me and my husband has become more and more like each talking a foreign language the other doesn't understand. No understanding of each other at all. I've blamed myself for 16yrs, (been together 17) he says I had trust issue when we met. Other the years I've reached out to so many people. But I'm thinking is it my feelings towards him???? Am I happy??? I have e assessment tomorrow at hospital with mental health team. Panicking they'll label me with some thing and he's going thrive on it