PTSD is very painful. And very REAL.
I can't add much to the knowledge or wisdom already expressed.
I will sure agree distancing is a critical survival tool and very painful to experience. I commend you on your path toward learning and healing.
As painful as it may be to do and to hear, focus on healing yourself that you may be able make the best decisions for yourself and those you care for.
There are incredible resources here and you are very very welcome to partake.
I send my wishes for strength and healing.
Thank you for your kind words ?
I know PTSD is different with every person, so its so confusing when I hear: distance is the key...and the next thing I notice is he texting me. It's not about emotions or how I am doing...so safe subjects, but still. He is "reaching out".
Today we saw each other and I noticed that after 3 hours he was tired and wanted to rest. We had a lovely day and he was happy chatting away. It was difficult and I had to stay strong not to cry. When I asked him about his emdr, which he is starting soon, he changed subject. So I know that was too much and thats ok.
When I left he gave me a hug and we stayed like that for twenty seconds...it felt so good to hold him. ? last week he wanted to "elbow" me goodbye, and that hurts. So now that he hugged me hello and goodbye is confusing.(not complaining:)) I'm trying to read some signals but dont want to get my hopes up high. Curious what my counselor will say this week.