How to help my girlfriend

[Notafirstreciver]

My girlfriend has been really suffering because of her ptsd she has had nightmares flashbacks sudden random collapse is there anything I can do to help it has really changed her and she has had a few suicidal thoughts I have seen her holding herself over a knife on her bed can I do anything to help her thanks in advance for replies

 

[EveHarrington]

Hi,

If she is that close to harming herself, she really needs professional help. Is she seeing a therapist or a psychiatrist? At this point the only thing you can do is help her get to the people who can help her best.

 

[Notafirstreciver]

Hi,

If she is that close to harming herself, she really needs professional help. Is she seeing a therapist or a psychiatrist? At this point the only thing you can do is help her get to the people who can help her best.

Thanks for the reply
She is going to therapy and I take her there but she doesn't think she needs it but I'm sure she does also she has had times when she would barely eat I had to go on a sports tour for a week I got back and the only thing she had eaten was a few bags of pistachios in a week I'm trying to make sure she is eating

 

[EveHarrington]

If she doesn’t think she needs therapy, that means she’s not really interested in healing at this point.

In order for her to get better, she has to want to get better. She needs to do the heavy lifting.

If you fall into the trap of trying to fix her, that’s veering into codependent territory. This should be avoided at all costs. In my experience it’s very damaging and a relationship killer.

 

[Notafirstreciver]

If you fall into the trap of trying to fix her, that’s veering into codependent territory. This should be avoided at all costs. In my experience it’s very damaging and a relationship killer.

So do I just do nothing?

 

[EveHarrington]

I think it’s important to set boundaries in terms of what behavior is acceptable and what is not.

If she cannot keep herself safe and is to the point of almost harming herself, then I’d say it’s time to call in emergency services (whatever they may be in your country). In the USA you can call the police to do a wellness check and at which point the police will do everything they can to get said person to the ER for an official evaluation by psychiatric professionals. If she’s already to the point of actively harming or making an attempt, then calling 911 (emergencies, or whatever it is where you live) is really your only option. I know some countries have mobile crisis units.

She may be angry at you for calling, but it’s better to have her safe.

But, as long as she’s in that area where she doesn’t need immediate attention, there’s not much you can do other than encourage her to get help, get more help, get different help, etc.

 

[joeylittle]

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