How To Help Some Adults

[JFSurvivor]

I am trying to hold the people who abused me accountable because they continue to abuse small children to this day and it has to stop. I have reached out to other families who have left that mess but are still being effected. They have agreed to help but are still reeling from everything they and their children went through. How can I help them so we can get on this and make some progress?

 

[Deleted member 541]

@JFSurvivor You can't force someone to stand up and take responsibility if they don't want to..... if you feel that abuse is still ongoing, then you need to contact the authorities ASAP........

 

[7Cs]

if you feel that abuse is still ongoing, then you need to contact the authorities ASAP........

This.
Even though it is may be hard because you seem to be still attached (completely normal thing experienced by abused kids)
to them in some way the abuse really does need to be reported. Protect the innocent.


It doesn't sound like a family situation that you're describing. Is this a organization or group?

I could be totally off base with everything I just posted with the excepting of Report the Abuse. If so disregard all the other stuff. It's probably too early for me to be communicating.

 

[7Cs]

I could be totally off base with everything I just posted with the *excepting* of Report the Abuse

... exception...

see. too early.

 

[Kintsugi]

JFS has a list at the start of her trauma diary. Sounds like some really institutionally tolerated, if not passively condoned, abuse via school.

The things listed there about the teacher(s?), at the very least, are extremely disturbing and are not at all legal in the US.

The problem of course is that someone or several people would, in fact, need to report this to get anything done, and I can see how that would be very intimidating for most people. Legal procedures can be harrowing. Regardless, having read the list in your diary, I think anyone who was affected by these disgusting practices should come forward. I would be mortified if I were a child or parent who found out that others who suffered such behavior did not report it as adults, allowing it to continue. I'm not playing a blame game here; reporting is scary. But I think it's in everyone's interest in this community that something serious be done.

If the other adults who are aware of this are unwilling to talk about it, that's a real shame, because there is a lot of strength in numbers. It seems to me that multiple accounts of the same offenses have not only a culminative effect of credibility but a synergistic one (1+1+1= 10).

Keep us posted of your efforts. I'd like to see this teacher (or these teachers/this school) broken wide open.

 

[Justmehere]

Is there a victim law non-profit in your area? They may be able to help considerably.

For those who are reeling from what's been done to their kids could probably benefit from therapeutic support, I'd connect them to counseling services to help them get through this.

 

[Freedomfighter]

I wanted to do that too, but my anger has greatly diminished because for the first time in my life Iam being understood, Being helped, it is like walking in a totally different realm. Iam being shown so many things right now, traveling in a different universe, experiencing the difference between good and evil, experiencing the opposite of what all of of my abusers did to me, being shown true caring and patience, so now i pause and listen, listen to the truth and trust in the remarkable efforts of only one who can not only identify all of my past abusers very acurately, but who has also been able to show me the direct opposite of abuse. Getting better, healthier, and adapting to the one new road I always wanted to travel on. People call me a liar, but they dont know, perhaps they do know. Dont care, only want to pay attention to what is right, not the loosers. Fascinated by the new information, chockfull of truth, reality, and also great understanding. To be understood is a great gift, revelling in that.
Have not in my whole life ever experienced true caring, so now that Iam allowed to experience that, will I listen to A holes? Nope