General I Am Over It!!!

[Jen]

That is a very good resolution Jen, you come first! I am glad you have come to realize that point. There is only so much we can do if our loved ones don't cooperate!

Thats right Kathy he has to want to help himself as well!
Our son goes home tomorrow then flies out to Afghan in 4 weeks it has been great having him here I miss the company that he provides when he is home even if its just helping me to go to the dump or little things around the house that his father does not do!
Hubby has his ute at home now this was always going to be his pet project it will be interesting to see if he works on it like he says?
I am back at work on Monday which is a good thing at least I am not sitting around stewing waiting for him to get out of bed!

 

[Jen]

Well our son went home yesterday it was an emotional farewll I was a mess all afternoon. But I am back at work today and I spoke to him last night and he said he really enjoyed his time with us and that I am a sook:wink:
I am not expecting much out of hubby this week he had his butt planted to the chair in front of the tv yesterday.
One worry is that the last 4 nights his sugar level has been 9 or 10?
He cant get in to see Doc till next week. But as we all say he could help himself in this area by a little exercise hey?

 

[Kathy]

Jen, do you think perhaps his sleeping in and low mood is somehow related to his diabetes not being well controlled? I am not an expert on diabetes by any means however it would seem to me that not having one's physical illness properly managed would affect one's mood. Though as you say, it is up to him to exercise and also eat properly!

I imagine it was a very emotional farewell with your son! I am not looking forward to mine with Colin. He leaves for Afghanistan in 3 weeks.

 

[Jen]

We can cry on each others shoulder that week Kathy I think my boy flys out about the 5th Feb?

 

[Kathy]

Yes it seems they are deploying around the same time. It lovely to have someone else to comiserate with at least!

 

[Jim]

Interesting. Dates are very close. Certainly do comiserate with you Jen, as Kathleen mentions. Wish all the best for your boy.

Jim.

 

[Jen]

Yeh Jim it is ironic that they are going around the same time but he is not going to tell me to much about locations etc for obvious reasons.
All the best to your son while he is over there!
And I hope the time goes quickly for Kathy and yourself!:hello:

 

[Jen]

Hubby was not good yesterday I knew this was going to happen after all the holidays and family time?
I was thinking about this yesterday?
I know there are sufferers that know they have PTSD and hubby KNOWS he has it but maybe he does not ACCEPT it?
I feel some sufferers accept it as they get on with their life and are learning to live with it?
When Hubby did the PTSD course the counsellor told me that hubby was at the early stages of PTSD and she found it hard to communicate with him as he had a barrier up and wouldnt let her in?:wall:
Surely when you accept that you have problems they should be easier to deal with?
I hope this isnt to confusing?

 

[Kathy]

I believe I know what you mean Jen. He has to be at a point where he is willing to work upon himself and perhaps he isn't there yet? Perhaps in denial? I suppose it is different for everyone. Some begin almost immediately, others take years. Evie didn't begin work on herself until about a year ago, yet she was diagnosed in 2002. How long since his diagnosis Jen?

 

[Jen]

He was discharged from the Army 10 years ago and was diagnosed around the same time.
So it has been a while it just seemed weird when the counsellor said she thought he was at the early stages of PTSD last year? Maybe those first few years of denial are taking their toll as I believe these last few weeks he has been worse than ever?
Thanks Kathy!

 

[Nicolette]

Hi Jen

I can't offer much but from memory it took Anthony around 5 years to be able to manage himself better from first being diagnosed. And from the little I understand I think he went downhill before he got better.

Hang in there and take care.

Nicolette

 

[Jen]

Hi Nicolette thanks for that.
The difference is that Anthony wanted to get better and he has learnt to live with his PTSD as hard as it may be for him at times.
Hubby just does not seem to have that willpower to want to better himself?