General I Am Over It!!!

[Frankie]

Good for you Jen, you really have to think about you ! And you have to take care of the business, you can't let that go bad ! In getting help, you are helping yourself too ! And good for you for taking a stand ! We all have to be responsible for our actions !

I am sure you have been taking care of him all these years, and have been careful not to hurt or upset him more.

But it is so true, as in everything, we HAVE to want to get better ! He has to want to get better, and start making the efforts himself, there is so much you can do for him, but there comes a point when you say "enough" !

And also true that in sickness, (any kind), some of us tend to take advantage and manipulate the people we love ! It is so much easier to just lay there and have everyone do everything in our place !

My bf pushes himself out of bed, he knows if he lets himself, he would sleep all day, and he also knows it wouldn't be good for him. So he gets out of bed and gets busy, he has a seasonal job, and this season has been a very busy one ! BUT he is making the effort !

I hope your husband wakes up !! and makes the efforts needed for his own good and the good of you as a couple and family !

Like I always tell my bf.."I love you, I will support you, I am here for you BUT, "PTSD is not an excuse for bad behavior, there are certain things I will not tolerate"

Good luck Jen :)

 

[Jen]

Thanks guys!
He was almost human yesterday for the day.
He has a doc appt tomorrow but it is mainly about his diabeties.

 

[Kathy]

I hope he continues to be a little more human Jen! It must be difficult for you, however I am glad you are doing some things for yourself now.

 

[anthony]

Very good that he is Jen.... remember, it is up to you whether you enable his behaviour or not. Whether he likes it or not, he will more often change if you force him too in more indirect behaviours, ie. not enable his behaviour or allow him to hold you back from life. He will either feel left out, left behind or come to the party and begin helping himself. Amazing what love can do Jen..... even when it is at the lessen end of the scale.

 

[Jen]

I went with him to the docs yesterday and spent some time with the doc before Hubby came in. I told the doc about a few home truths that I am sure Hubby wouldnt talk to him about.
When hubby came in the Doc had a talk to him in his own funny way ( you know the Doc I am talking about Anthony)
He is a GP but I would rather him than a Pysch any day.
He has changed hubbys antidepressants for a month thats when he goes back to the Pysch.

 

[Kathy]

I hope the change in antidepressants helps Jen. I have never been a huge fan of medication however the correct medication and dosage does seem to do wonders for some! Fingers crossed for you and hubby.

 

[Jen]

I am not a fan of it either Kathy! But as you said if it works for some!
You wouldnt believe all the different tablets he is on!
You can hear him rattling when he walks:wink:

 

[Nicolette]

I guess if the tablets/meds work enough for hubby to have a change in attitude, and then perhaps he decides to make some changes, well it was then all for good...... Lets hope the tablets help!

 

[Jim]

Good luck to you both Jen!

Jim.

 

[Jen]

Thanks Jim things are a little better between us this weekend. No change on his part at the moment I am trying to be patient but we are talking about things?

 

[jods]

I hear you about the rattling Jen, my hubby is the same!

Just remember it takes a while for them to kick in so just keep an eye out for side effects.

Hope your health is improving & you are getting closer to playing on that golf course :wink:

 

[Jen]

Thanks Jods nice to hear from you!
Planning to start back at golf next Monday Australia Day Holiday if all goes to plan!