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I am the softest cry baby on this earth and very vulnerable

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I am the most softest person on this planet... I am feeling very vulnerable all the time and then beat myself up about it after I have done the holy curse ! I was bought up to never disrespect or say NO to anyone.. and to help people all the time.. seems pretty crazy hey but basically I was bought up with manners in the old era .. What do I do if I am in a situation where someone has a problem and I offer to help? I always do ! ... I have met a lady who has really copped it bad. She is an alcoholic and has ??? PTSD Complex... She told me her horror story.. very awful and to say I had to say yes I will help where I can.. although ? really I dont think mentally I can.... I therefore asked her if she wants to come to a PTSD Group support meeting in 3 weeks time. She said yes and asked me to help her as she has tried to self harm... very sad story !... but now I regret it because she will be totally in never land because she will be in lala land with the vodka. Do you think its a good idea at all?... Just asking trying to convince myself that I now think its not a good idea... since speaking to her 2 days ago I have severe anxiety... because her story is similar to mine.. I have done so well over the last few months and have managed to find a place where I can do placement work with a new beginning in my work and now this has #$%^& it up ... I havent worked for 3 years and now I feel really stupid because I have offered to help this lady.. Am I being selfish ?.... or is it a way of me getting better to help her.. I feel so sorry for her.. She has been through a really hard life... what must I do ?
 
You have no responsibility for this person, your first responsibility is to keep yourself well and supported. By all means offer help and support if you want to and are able to without compromising your own wellbeing but it's not disrespectful or selfish to say "no" and to know your limits.
 
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