Sexual Assault I Don't Know If I Can Say I Was Sexually Assaulted.

[Lilmsbatman]

Okay I'm new here so I'll try to keep this short and to the point. I don't know if I can say was sexually assaulted. So 2 days ago I went with one of my friends to a friends hotel room to hang out and drink. We both have boyfriends so we weren't there to have sex or anything just hangout. So I got drunk within like two hours of being there I was the drunkest person there. I couldn't really walk straight and I was so tired. I ended up telling this guy that I was kinda friends with to let's go somewhere private. Well he just ends up going to the car we talk for a while and I end up kissing him and he ends up feeling me up. I'm okay with it at this moment. He then tell me he's gonna kick his friends out of the room. Again at that moment I was okay with it. I couldn't even really walk back to the room and had to sit down on the stairs cuz I was gonna throw up. So he kicks his friends out and I tell my friend I was okay. So this is when things get blurry for me. I was so tired at this point just to let y'all know. We make out and he takes off my clothes and I'm okay with it but then he couldn't get in the mood (if you get what I'm saying) so I'm like it okay it's cuz you've been drinking I then turn around and pass out. I wake up to him doing things and I say no stop it but he forces me down and continues. I don't move I don't scream I don't cry I just go back to sleep. I keep waking up for the next couple of hours in different positions with him doing different things. Once he's done I go to the bath room clean myself put on my clothes and call my friend. We go home and I notice I'm bleeding down there and um.. my butt... I'm sore there's no bruises buy I'm in so much pain.

I don't know if I can say I was raped? I mean I started it but I did fall asleep and say no....

 

[The Albatross]

Maybe we should have our own sub-forum for these.
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[Deadman]

That sounds exactly like rape to me. Have you called the police? Gone to the hospital?

 

[Deleted member 37474]

I don't know why I keep reading these posts today, they are very triggering to me. Yes, you were 100 percent raped. And all of the consensual stuff that you did at first, legally in the us, was also rape considering how drunk you were. But that aside, when I was raped long ago, I buried it. Please accept it for what it is, so that you can get help and deal with it. You don't want His to sit inside if you forever.

 

[Casey_03]

If you said no and told him to stop and he kept going, yes, that is rape.

 

[Lilmsbatman]

That sounds exactly like rape to me. Have you called the police? Gone to the hospital?

No I haven't done anything I'm scared they're gonna make it my fault. I have a boy friend so the cops will just be like oh she cheated and now she regrets it and is calling it rape...

 

[Lilmsbatman]

Thank you everyone for replying it's helping me process that this isn't my fault... I've talked to my bestfriend and boyfriend and they're wanting me to go to therapy I'm gonna check some of them out on Monday

I don't know why I keep reading these posts today, they are very triggering to me. Yes, you were 100 pe...

I'm trying to accept it it's just hard for me I'm talking to my bestfriend about it and on Monday I'm going to go see a therapist

If you said no and told him to stop and he kept going, yes, that is rape.

Even tho I was okay with it before I passed out?

 

[Deadman]

Have you tried phoning a sexual assault hotline? They can help you find appropriate care. Just google sexual assault hotline and your state.

I'd send you some links but I still can't do that yet.

 

[Lilmsbatman]

Have you tried phoning a sexual assault hotline? They can help you find appropriate care. Just google s...

No I haven't I will do so tho once I'm off work.