General I Feel Bad About My Post Last Night

[helena]

I feel bad about my post last night - I don't have ptsd and I feel I whinged unnecessarily and without thinking.

I have read some of your stories and am feeling very humble that people who have suffered so much take time out to offer comfort to me.

I'm sorry for that. Trust me, I am a strong person with someone who is suffering. That makes him a complete b...st..d at times (well, a lot actually) but it is my choice to stay with him.

I don't know how some of you cope with what you have gone through and, maybe, if I learn how you do it I can help my partner.

If you asked me precisely what he has gone through - I can't tell you. Severe physical abuse as a child, without a doubt , combat trauma, survival guilt - but exactly what, I don't know and I have been with him for 9 years so whatever is eating him up inside is well and truly hidden.

I want to learn as much as I can - he is off on 'a bender' as we call it here. I probably wont see him for days and then he'll come home with his tail between his legs. Having said that, I still feel we are at a crossroads and me finding this site was part of it.

 

[SunnyBrookFarm]

Helena -

Never apologize for reaching out for help. You have come here out of compassion and concern for someone with PTSD. I'm glad you found this site and I hope that you can find the support that you need from it.

I'm sorry that your guy is on a bender and that what is eating at him - is still hidden. I'm a sufferer and a carer (my daughter has PTSD) - so I do understand both sides somewhat. It's hard on everyone involved. I can absolutely validate that.

 

[Tinyflame]

Dear Helena,

That's ok, I am glad that you got it out and on "paper'; your sufferings are just as valid, too.
I think that it must be terrible for carers.

Just a thought.. what about Al Anon? Even to check out an online meeting.
Every resource helps.

Hugs and best wishes to you.
:Hug_emoticon:

 

[cragger65]

Helana, we've all got to get it off our chest somehow, sooner or later. You're strong for him, but you need someone to be strong and compassionate for you, too. That's the way we humans are built. If you saw some of my rants, you'd blush (and so would I) ;D

 

[CCurry]

Helana, we've all got to get it off our chest somehow, sooner or later. You're strong for him, but you need someone to be strong and compassionate for you, too. That's the way we humans are built. If you saw some of my rants, you'd blush (and so would I) ;D

Helena,

I totally agree with cragger65, I wouldn't have written something very close to this. We have to turn to somebody to release our frustration and this is a good place to do that.

Carmela

 

[Noone.]

Hi Helena.
I wouldn't worry about the thread at all.
Say what you have to say, let it out as long as its productive for you I say go
for it.
See ya.

Fire.