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Friday
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Did you click on the link?I don’t know what that is
I didn’t realize that was a link. Thank you for letting me know. I’m still fairly new. I did read the article. I’m digesting it. Not sure I completely understand all of it, but one of my coping mechanisms, all of my life has been to overcompensate positive things in my life in order to minimize the negative things. So I get that part. I’m still not real sure I understand it. I believe I’m fairly new at healing my trauma, although I had a trauma therapist for 10 years I don’t think very much work was done. Kinda goes back to the quality of the therapist. He’s the one I fired.Did you click on the link?
Maybe don't comment if this makes you seemingly mad therefore you lash out. Kind words are more motivating.Because you’re not a psychopath? Reeeeeally? You think if someone is 90 they just don’t give a f*ck?!? Or 70? Or 50? Because you’re 45 you should be EMBARASSED to care for others??? Sure, because everyone else who is 45 is an unfeeling monster???
Hard pass.
You care. So you’re hurting.
At WHATEVER the f*ck age you are.
Friday, I appreciate you and respect you, but I have to agree with Punky. I think that when you get angry and lash out it may be harmful to others who are here seeking help. If you feel strongly about something I would ask that you take some time and step away until you have dealt with your anger or post on the thread that is set up for swearing and getting it out of your system before you comment. Thank you for caring about us as much as we care about you.Maybe don't comment if this makes you seemingly mad therefore you lash out. Kind words are more motivating.
The rule of thumb around here is take what’s helpful, leave the rest.I would ask that you
Again, I wasn’t mad. At all. (Nor triggered, nor lashing out, etc.). On the contrary, I was trying to be kind/encouraging/supportive, & was misunderstood; assumptions were made, conclusions jumped to, solutions suggested… all completely incorrect… about my thoughts/feelings/motives/actions. As confusing to me as if I’d been told I clearly have a fear of ice cream & here is how I should go about handling it.Maybe don't comment if this makes you seemingly mad therefore you lash out. Kind words are more motivating.
I would like to apologize for this misunderstanding Friday. Unfortunately, texting doesn’t always make everything perfectly clear. But this additional message that you added, helps me to understand where you were coming from. My misunderstanding came from the way you phrased “are you a psychopath?”Again, I wasn’t mad. At all. (Nor triggered, nor lashing out, etc.). On the contrary, I was trying to be kind/encouraging/supportive, & was misunderstood; assumptions were made, conclusions jumped to, solutions suggested… all completely incorrect… about my thoughts/feelings/motives/actions. As confusing to me as if I’d been told I clearly have a fear of ice cream & here is how I should go about handling it.
I don’t understand how telling someone they’re NOT an unfeeling psychopath, and don’t need to feel embarrassed/ashamed/wrong for feeling …at any age… and that it’s okay to care for people, and hurt about losing them, and to be struggling to reconcile everything & all of it; reads as angry triggered lashing out. But I don’t need to understand, it’s not my thread. So I’ll be bowing out.