I feel too much when really depressed

[Friday]

I don’t know what that is

Did you click on the link?

 

[PamelaS]

Did you click on the link?

I didn’t realize that was a link. Thank you for letting me know. I’m still fairly new. I did read the article. I’m digesting it. Not sure I completely understand all of it, but one of my coping mechanisms, all of my life has been to overcompensate positive things in my life in order to minimize the negative things. So I get that part. I’m still not real sure I understand it. I believe I’m fairly new at healing my trauma, although I had a trauma therapist for 10 years I don’t think very much work was done. Kinda goes back to the quality of the therapist. He’s the one I fired.
I just started working with a trauma informed therapist on Thursday. Going to discuss it with her to help me to understand. Thanks for sharing Friday. Appreciate it. Have a good night.

 

[Punky143]

Because you’re not a psychopath? Reeeeeally? You think if someone is 90 they just don’t give a f*ck?!? Or 70? Or 50? Because you’re 45 you should be EMBARASSED to care for others??? Sure, because everyone else who is 45 is an unfeeling monster???

Hard pass.

You care. So you’re hurting.

At WHATEVER the f*ck age you are.

Maybe don't comment if this makes you seemingly mad therefore you lash out. Kind words are more motivating.

 

[PamelaS]

Maybe don't comment if this makes you seemingly mad therefore you lash out. Kind words are more motivating.

Friday, I appreciate you and respect you, but I have to agree with Punky. I think that when you get angry and lash out it may be harmful to others who are here seeking help. If you feel strongly about something I would ask that you take some time and step away until you have dealt with your anger or post on the thread that is set up for swearing and getting it out of your system before you comment. Thank you for caring about us as much as we care about you.

 

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[Friday]

Maybe don't comment if this makes you seemingly mad therefore you lash out. Kind words are more motivating.

Again, I wasn’t mad. At all. (Nor triggered, nor lashing out, etc.). On the contrary, I was trying to be kind/encouraging/supportive, & was misunderstood; assumptions were made, conclusions jumped to, solutions suggested… all completely incorrect… about my thoughts/feelings/motives/actions. As confusing to me as if I’d been told I clearly have a fear of ice cream & here is how I should go about handling it.

I don’t understand how telling someone they’re NOT an unfeeling psychopath, and don’t need to feel embarrassed/ashamed/wrong for feeling …at any age… and that it’s okay to care for people, and hurt about losing them, and to be struggling to reconcile everything & all of it; reads as angry triggered lashing out. But I don’t need to understand, it’s not my thread. So I’ll be bowing out.

 

[PamelaS]

Again, I wasn’t mad. At all. (Nor triggered, nor lashing out, etc.). On the contrary, I was trying to be kind/encouraging/supportive, & was misunderstood; assumptions were made, conclusions jumped to, solutions suggested… all completely incorrect… about my thoughts/feelings/motives/actions. As confusing to me as if I’d been told I clearly have a fear of ice cream & here is how I should go about handling it.

I don’t understand how telling someone they’re NOT an unfeeling psychopath, and don’t need to feel embarrassed/ashamed/wrong for feeling …at any age… and that it’s okay to care for people, and hurt about losing them, and to be struggling to reconcile everything & all of it; reads as angry triggered lashing out. But I don’t need to understand, it’s not my thread. So I’ll be bowing out.

I would like to apologize for this misunderstanding Friday. Unfortunately, texting doesn’t always make everything perfectly clear. But this additional message that you added, helps me to understand where you were coming from. My misunderstanding came from the way you phrased “are you a psychopath?”
My husband is a psychopath. And your statement appeared to be accusing someone of being a psychopath. That’s one of the disadvantages of texting. We don’t hear a person’s tone of voice. We don’t get the full message. It was simply a misunderstanding. Please accept my apology for reading it the way I read it, which was not the way it was intended. My goal is to always move forward. In order to do that we have to make amends when things go sideways. Things will go sideways, that’s part of life. But what we do with it after that determines whether we keep going forward or not. I would like to move forward through this with you. I intended no harm. After all the harm that I have received in my life, the last thing, the very last thing that I ever want to do is harm someone else. So I hope this explanation helps you to understand where I was coming from. Thank you very much for this explanation of where you were coming from. I appreciate that I now see where you were coming from. Let’s move past all this, please?