I Like Him A Lot

[Mariah]

I'm currently undergoing EMDR treatment for my PTSD. I'm right in the middle of it, so emotions are high. My PTSD is caused from a very serious car accident I was in August of 2013, and also from a friend raping me last year. This of course has caused a massive detriment on my love life. I wanted to stay single through treatment and healing and just focus on myself. Dating and definitely sex have been far off my radar. But recently I met this guy. When he looks in my eyes I absolutely melt. He texts me late at night just to let me know he is thinking of me. I really, really like him. Which honestly shocks me. I haven't liked anyone for so long. Even before the accident I chose to remain single. But I already feel a serious connection with this guy. He told me, "if you're looking to just hook up this isn't gonna work" he doesn't know about anything yet. I couldn't have sex with him if I wanted to, I don't even feel ready to date. But he hit me like a tsunami, I want to be with him. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that I'm not making a huge mistake by getting into this guy in the middle of my treatment? I don't want to screw things up for myself, I do not want to hurt my healing. I don't want to hurt him. But at the same time, I haven't felt a connection with anyone for so long, even a friendly connection. It's nice, but I am nervous. Any advice?

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I say be honest. Tell him you're in recovery. And I'd say take it slow. What's the rush?

 

[Go Hungry]

Take it slow. As @Solara said, there is no rush. And tell him about it. If he's really so cool, he'll be down with just being friends for now. :)