I Like The Look Of This Bright Light, But...

[leanne1321]

Shannon,

of course it's painful and there's nothing wrong with that, we've all been through that! You're grieving the loss of someone you love and you need some time to heal. It may take a few weeks, or it might take a few months, but one thing I can promise; it does get better.

You need to get those emotions out. Obviously you're feeling angry, sad, betrayed and I'm sure you feel stupid because its been going on for so long behind your back and you probably feel that people are laughing at you. All of this is normal, but you need to get these emotions out. Let yourself cry, be angry. Write letters to them to tell them how you feel (you don't have to send it). You just have to remember that you did nothing wrong, its his loss and hers.

And you are doing well, remember that! You've done something that few people do when they're in pain; you've reached out for support! You are very grown up and brave to do that!

 

[Mitzi]

Shannon,

I just wanted to say how impressed I am by your strength and maturity. I am sorry for all that you have been going through - so much to deal with! But you are doing great and wow, as leanne says, you are just incredible to reach out to a forum like this one for support at your age! I could not have done something so mature, and brave when I was so young. I feel like I must tell you, I admire you greatly for your strength and find it inspiring.

I'm sure you will be a great mother someday when the time is right. But right now I just think was not the right time.

I'd like to echo what many of the other posters have already said - you will feel better with time. And you sound like an amazing young woman, your boyfriend is certainly missing out. Someone better who deserves an incredible person such as you have demonstrated yourself to be will come along soon!

Hugs and all the very best to you.