I Want To Know Why I Was Raped

[jmni]

When I started working at a casino my coworkers looked at me as though I were crazy. Apparently I was extremely trusting and I had no idea. Looking back now I can see mistakes that I made which I would not make now because I don't want to be alone with insert_name and I think going somewhere with him would be "all risk and no reward." I suspect this might at least be part of the answer you are looking for.

 

[Alfred.Greene]

I'm sorry this conversation is necessary. I will never forget the day I was told 1 in 4 women will be sexually harmed in their lives. Thinking of two of my best friends, my grandmother, and one of my sisters 1 out of those 4 have been hurt in that way....

I cannot express how upset this makes me that people are being hurt, and this culture does nothing to stop it.

I wish you only the best. I am here if you need me.

 

[Recovery4Me]

does it make sense that I was too scared to fight back? I like froze up when it was happening...it was really scary

(((Big Hugs)))

I am a survivor of rapes as well as incest (yuck, right?) I desperately wanted to believe at some level that I had control of these ugly events. IF I could blame myself, I could find a way to prevent it again...not loose control of the horrific situation -but it just isn't so.

Rape is a crime of violence, powerplays...age old devaluing and objectifying. I personally have a friend- a nun that has been raped while she was wearing her full garb on the way to vespers. Police officers, soldiers in service, black belts...the list is endless and brutally sad.

Gently whisper to yourself...that you did nothing wrong, it was out of your control and that you are worthy of being loved.
I believe in you and see you as beautiful, courageous and more than the sum total of what others have done to you.

One day at a time...you WILL heal.:hug: