I Want To Quit Therapy

[Uciz]

I think if I wasn't me and someone asked me advice on this, I might say if it's really making you feel that bad, you have to tell her, but I did tell her I'm finding it too difficult.

Why is it difficult? Because I'm not really feeling listened to because she leaves so much silence. It ends up feeling like she just doesn't care.

Could that be transference though - because my abusers didn't care? If so, what do I do about that feeling - feeling uncared for?

 

[Wuvika]

I would not find it helpful to just talk about my past. Is there something you can do to make therapy work for you. What worked for me was to give a 5minute summary of my past in the first session for context but spend the time talking about the present. I initially thought this was a waste of time but over the sessions my T started to see patterns of unhelpful thinking that she helped me change.

 

[Uciz]

My present is just as awful as my past. I've practically shut the world out. I have problems with my physical health too. I just feel like there's no hope for me.

I have told her that. Response? Silence. :(

 

[Uciz]

If I keep going down this thought path, I'll end up with the suicidal thoughts and I really really don't want that. I want to get better. I just don't know how and her silence - how can that be helpful?

 

[Gecoz]

how can that be helpful?

I think this is really what you need to ask of her - how does she feel silence works as part of the therapeutic process, because to you it's leaving you feeling unheard.

 

[Uciz]

I am going to ask her that at my next appointment, thanks.

 

[Dukoze]

No but she made it quite clear that this is how she works..

Just wondering if you have been direct enough with your concerns. If you haven't told her how that makes you feel how do you know that she can't take a different path. Please be direct and don't be vague when speaking about this. An issue like this left alone could be pretty bad down the road!!! Good luck!

 

[Ohec]

Get another therapist asap.

 

[Uciz]

I guess I wasn't direct enough about it. Next time I will be. I do kind of fear her saying that's the way it's got to be, and me just going, well, I can't do this anymore with you then.

 

[Nabip]

And recommend Judith Herman's Trauma and Recovery. Or better yet, buy her a copy. She doesn't seem to know the first thing about dealing with trauma survivors.

 

[Tigig]

One thing for certain is you're not doing it wrong! You can't do therapy wrong, only the therapist can do that!
I'm not a fan of that kind of approach - it didn't help me either.
I hope you do tell her and she changed the way she is with you. If not, there are other kinds of therapists out there that might suit you better.
For me too that silence just made me feel awkward, exposed, unheard. I found a different therapist and she has really helped me!
It's not you.,,,,

 

[Mifuko]

Show her this thread. That would be interesting....