I Want To Quit Therapy

[Imad]

I am so sorry you are feeling that way. I hope you will be able to recover at least till so,e point both physically and mentally.
I am sending you hugs if you accept.

 

[Lati]

Nope. I see what you see too. Can't see how that kind of approach could help anyone and actually it makes me angry. Therapists are just people who study a trade - if should be requisite that they have thd quality of empathy but many don't.
Trust yourself - seems like you do snyway!
The best therapy for me is being creative - write it out, paint it out, whatever works.
Sons therapists are amazing - I wouldn't bag all therapists- but certainly not all. Not even most
glad that you believe and trust in yourself!!

 

[Uciz]

Thank you for the hugs and understanding, again I really don't want to offend anyone but it's not right for me and I see other people it's not helping also.

 

[Tanej]

Nothing you said was offensive, at least from my point of view.
I only suggest not to be completely dismissive, maybe to give another chance, if not to her, then to someone new.

 

[Vihut]

I too know too many people who've been seeing a therapist for years and see no real improvement or development of insight.
I've always thought that therapists were worth paying for if they give you honest feedback - but maybe that would make the therapy too short!!
Don't mean to be cynical.... But...,

 

[Uciz]

Yeah, that's my point, I just don't see many people saying how great it is for them. I have read a lot about psychology and whilst some of the theories are right, I don't see how they can help. I was very well and functioning good before I remembered traumas, I wish I could get that back, I don't see how sitting in a room telling a stranger my stuff can help me. When I go home, I'm still alone, unwell, and even more sad than before the session.

Yes, the therapist I was seeing does not have the right approach. I don't think she's trained in dealing with trauma. Those silences were giving me panic attacks, she never even asked if I was ok, wanted some water or to end the session early. Just stared at me.

I think some therapists can help, but I think they are rare.

 

[Maboti]

Yeah, everything which is good is rare, that's how the stuff goes.
I have found the wonderful therapist from my second attempt. But I guess I was lucky, usually takes more to find a proper one.

 

[Idahuc]

I am better off forgetting what happened. I only have a short life now, I'm just saying I'm not wasting any more time on it

If you believe that quitting therapy will allow you to do this and get on with your life without trauma effects then, yup, leaving therapy sounds like a good plan - if therapy is the only thing contributing to your problems now then it makes sense to drop it. Is that how you feel about it? That the only thing causing you to have negative effects from trauma in your life now is the therapy?

Have you had breaks from therapy before where you were able to function at a level you were happy with?

are they going to magic it away?

Even the best therapist in the world is going to fall short of your expectations and disappoint you if this is what you believe their job to be.

Have you been back to therapy since starting this thread to give your T any feedback?

 

[Uciz]

I certainly think I function better without it, I was dreading returning and just dreading it every week, and feeling worse after each session. She never reassured me like other therapists did, I actually think there was transference happening because when people from my past would sit silent I'd feel very scared. I can't force her to talk more when her method seems to be this. She did make it clear I'm there to talk about me but when I actually told her therapy was making me worse, feel faint etc, she didn't try to reassure me in any way. Just li

 

[Uciz]

Like my abusers.

 

[Opob]

I actually think there was transference happening

Yep. I think you're spot on with this. And, while I know it's not what you want to hear, the best place to work through that would be in therapy ;) Not working through it allows you to keep hold of the negative messages about it. With the right therapist, it could be a really good opportunity to create more positive ones.

I guess what I worry about for you is that quitting without bringing any of this up with your therapist means you get to keep hold of all these negative beliefs about yourself and about her and about therapy. You're not really giving it the opportunity to be anything different.

. I can't force her to talk more when her method seems to be this.

Here is a good example - you don't like that she leaves silences in the sessions, but instead of telling her that it makes you uncomfortable and giving her the opportunity at least to show if she is willing or not to try and work in different ways, you've decided she must be unmovable on this, without actually asking her if she is or not.

Therapy is scary. Therapy is hard work. Therapy means challenging yourself and putting yourself outside of your comfort zone time and time again. Therapy is not easy. It's okay not to be ready for that or not to want, or feel able, at this time to give it the time and energy it takes. It doesn't have to mean there is anything wrong with your therapist or therapy. It doesn't have to mean there is anything wrong with you. It might just be the wrong time for you to work on the trauma side of things.

I hope my posts aren't coming off as harsh against you, that's not my intention, I just worry that you're choosing to paint your therapist as a bad person, who doesn't care and is only in it for the money, and all therapy as a crock of shit, rather than consider other possibilities for why it might not be working out.

It does sound like you need to take some time to reevaluate therapy and what it means to you, what you want and expect from it and whether those things are realistic, and ideally that would be with your therapist.

I wish you well and that it works out the way you want it to. I just hope you don't regret the decision to not allow her to the opportunity show you anything different.

 

[Uciz]

Not harsh at all, it's me who has been harsh. Sorry about that. I think it's the wrong time, given how unstable I probably am, physically unwell I am and just the wrong thing for me in general. I didn't realise that until I began. I started to feel like I was drowning.

In addition, I do not have the right sort of support system outside therapy right now. I am not in a good position. Quality of life is pretty much zero currently and a therapist can't do anything about that.