I Want To Quit Therapy

[Uca]

I do kind of fear her saying that's the way it's got to be,...

That may be her response, because it is how some therapists practice. That's not saying you're doing it wrong or can't be helped, just that "this is my style of therapy". At least you'll know where you stand and can make decisions about whether you want to find a new T with a different approach.

Alternatively, T's will often adapt and work with you if you take charge of how you need your therapy sessions to work, which could end up feeling really empowering for you and potentially be a huge leap forward with your relationship.

Either way, talking about it could be a win/win.

 

[Ole]

I feel exactly the same with my therapy but I am too scared to quit.

I feel always only worse after sessions and my t is silent as well mostly.

I can't afford to start all over again with a new one. This was my second try.

I aqm also so scared for my future without therapy as well as with this kind of therapy.

 

[Cohu]

it seems part of their technique is to sit silently.

Part of their technique, or they just plain suck, but they keep funneling them clients, so why bother trying to actually help people when you're still taking home a fat check for doing nothing?

 

[Uciz]

I have unofficially quit now.

I am better without it.

Better without thinking about the past.

I think therapy is a waste of time.

These people don't deserve the pay they get.

They ruin lives.

I think therapy is a crock of shit.

 

[Uciz]

I'll also add that I have read too many - people who have been in therapy for several years, and are still no better - doesn't that tell you something?!? It's a complete waste of time and money. Therapists don't give a damn about us. They're just putting an act on to get paid for something that doesn't even help. It does not really help.

You're homeless or you're losing your home or you have cancer, are they going to magic it away? Nope.

It's total bullshit

 

[Peguw]

doesn't that tell you something?!?

Tells me that you're being very selective abput what you read.

And maybe your T doesn't give a damn, but please don't speak on behalf of mine. He very definitely does give a damn, and I've made a lot of progress with him, partly because he genuinely does tive a damn.

 

[Vubiz]

You said you would tell her on next appointment how you fell. Have you done that before quitting?

 

[Isu]

You're homeless or you're losing your home or you have cancer, are they going to magic it away? Nope.

I think you missed the point of therapy. nobody's task is to make something away, so neither is of therapists.

They are here fot making us to be more competent to be able to gain a better life for ourselves.

 

[Holibe]

If you need to view it as total bullshit in order to feel justified in leaving it for now, that's an understandable reaction, but at some point I'd take the time to examine if that's the whole or real reason.

I'm not sure that laying it all on your therapist is entirely fair. Personally I don't even think that finding something or someone to blame for not progressing as quickly as you would like is necessary.

As someone who has spent a lot of time, money and energy on therapy, with very slow progress, I would probably fall under this category

people who have been in therapy for several years, and are still no better - doesn't that tell you something?!? It's a complete waste of time and money.

For the first year or so of therapy, I had times of feeling like you have, but the truth of it was that I just wasn't ready at that point for working at the level I am working with now with my therapist, and also that I didn't 'get' what therapy was or how it worked - this is not a criticism or a judgement, but you seem to be focusing a lot on external reasons for it not working out how you want -'therapy is a crock of shit' 'therapists don't care' - perhaps looking inside a bit more might be helpful too. Do you know what you actually want from therapy? Are you ready to put in the level of work that therapy requires? Again these are not criticisms, just questions.

I don't consider that year of flailing around trying to find my way with therapy wasted, although frustrating for sure, for me it was about finding what I wanted and needed and learning how to work with my therapist. It's a two way thing.

Therapists don't give a damn about us. They're just putting an act on to get paid for something that doesn't even help.

Do you genuinely believe this, is it just easier to believe this?

are they going to magic it away?

This speaks to me of being a misunderstanding of the point of therapy. Your therapist is not there to fix you. Therapy is not something that is done to you. You have to do most of the work.

 

[Hapoz]

Also, I'm curious if you chose to give the feedback to your therapist about how the silences were making you feel? Have you given both her and yourself the opportunity to resolve any of these issues?

 

[Koka]

Hello, Uciz!

I have never heard about this kind of method of interaction with the patient. As for me, it’s a very strange technique. If I was in your place, I wouldn’t know what to do in this situation, really. Probably, I will just be tossed into hysterics on the voltage. What is the meaning of this simply silence? Is it somehow help, do you know this? I totally sure, that we can keep silence, when we are all alone, can’t we? Are you sure that he's a good specialist? How old is he in that career, is there any positive results in his method? Of course, I'm certainly not a medical expert, but I don’t see the effectiveness of such therapy. Maybe someone smarter, than me, can explain it. With best wishes

 

[Uciz]

I think it just doesn't work for me. I am better off forgetting what happened. I only have a short life now, I'm just saying I'm not wasting any more time on it. I don't mean to offend anyone but I think most of you can't see what I see. I'm too ill to return anyway. I'm going to enjoy the short time I have left.