Relationship I'm Not Sure What To Do...

[Jillyfromtheblock]

@Casey_03 I understand what you're saying about coming on too strong and I don't take offense. I have told him how I feel, that I'm not looking to get into an "instant relationship" or become boyfriend/girlfriend immediately. I take my cues from him as to how he wants whatever you want to label this to progress. When he expressed concerns that it was moving too fast, I agreed and backed off. He then decided that he did want to see me again pretty soon after that conversation, so I agreed. Some other things are going on in his life that have nothing to do with me that are major stressors, namely his best friend is in the hospital on a ventilator, who most likely will not make it. That happened this past week and for all I know, he might have passed away already. I decided to send the text to let him know that I am ok with and am not going to be scared off by the isolating behavior, and will be waiting when he is ready, if that's what he wants. Maybe I poorly worded it and maybe that will scare him away. I don't know at this point, but I took a chance on something/someone in whom I see a lot of potential. Maybe that was coming on too strong, but I felt at the time that it was more a reassurance that I wasn't going to just freak out and ditch him.

I do appreciate the differing point of view. But I'm going to try not to stress about something that's already said and done. :)

 

[Jillyfromtheblock]

I actually just looked it up and I'm pretty sure his friend did pass away on Wednedsay. :(

 

[Sighs]

If his friend just died I would not expect to hear from him for quite some time. Probably weeks.

 

[Jillyfromtheblock]

Thank you @Sighs. I'm kind of expecting that. The last day I saw him he texted me telling me that his friend was in ICU & he came over to my place after he saw him in the hospital. We had a very nice visit & everything seemed great but the next afternoon was when he started isolating. And I did ask him about the friend's status on Thursday morning and he didn't ever respond. His friend was an older gentleman, more of a grandfather figure (also former military), not that it makes it any easier, because I don't think he has much of a support system and he referred to him as his best friend. Even if he did have people around that he thought he could trust, which I'm pretty sure he doesn't, I'm not sure he would even reach out to them. The funeral is tomorrow. I'm just gonna sit tight and let him figure it all out the way he needs to. Fingers crossed it won't be weeks, but if that's the case, then so be it.

I actually have an issue with anxiety, have had all my life. I've been on meds for about 5 years due to my chronic pain issues but dosed off my meds a few months ago, wanting to try to find a healthier way to deal with it myself, maybe breathing exercises or meditation. I suppose this alone time is as good a time as any to put some of that into practice. I'm gonna need it, I think :)