In Patient With A Small Child At Home?

[Hypothermia2012]

Today, during my session I told my t I was experiencing suicidal thoughts, he suggested that maybe in patient treatment would be a good idea for a week or so. I was opposed to the idea and now I am home. How can I be an inpatient with a small child at home? I can't leave my boyfriend at home for a week to care for our daughter by himself because I'm losing my f*cking mind! He doesn't deserve to have to deal with all this, my illness is ruining my life... I wouldn't be able to be in the hospital with my baby girl at home knowing I could be with her.. I don't have a plan to kill myself , the thoughts are just becoming unbearable. Has anyone had to do inpatient treatment with a young child or baby at home? ...

 

[Deleted member 27340]

I've not been in the parent position, but when I was little my mother was inpatient several times. When I was a baby and a toddler my parents were still together and my dad looked after me and my sister. After the divorce me and my sister went to live with temporary foster families while our mother was inpatient, which caused us to bounce around a lot.

Have you mentioned to your boyfriend that you might go inpatient for a week to hear his thoughts on that?

 

[Deleted member 27340]

Oh, and one week now is better than several weeks later on if you push it too far. At least I think it is. It's not as scary from the child's side if she gets to visit you (depends on how old she is, of course). I remember visiting took away the mysterious atmosphere around where my mother went and the doctors and psychs there would also talk to me and my sister about her condition to explain why she had to be there. I was 6 and my sister 4 the first time I can remember my mother being inpatient, and visiting her really made it less confusing. It puts a physical place to the whole "mommy is sick in the head right now so she has to be at the hospital with the talking-doctor"-explanation.

I don't know if it's helpful at all since you asked others if they've gone inpatient with a child left at home, but I hope you can use some of it at least.

 

[Justmehere]

First of all, you did a really good thing to talk to your T about your suicidal thoughts. That takes a lot of courage.

What about a partial hospitalization / intensive outpatient program? Many hospitals offer an option now of going to groups or day treatment anywhere from 2-3 hours a day 3 days a week to up to 6-8 hours a day every day (depending on how the program is set up.) I have done this myself and it was really effective to get out of some of the darkest times in my life. Maybe this would help you have some extra support without having to have someone watching your little one 24/7. If you can agree to keep yourself alive, most therapists and hospitals should be ok with this as an alternative to inpatient, and it is much less of a transition into this level of support and out of ur.

If you don't feel like you can resist the thoughts anymore and are going to act on them, then inpatient out be best, because if you are dead, then your can't be your little ones mom at all.

Sucidal thinking alone is tough to bear, the stressors of trying to figure out the logistics of treatment can be tough too. I hope you can find an arangement that helps you find some relief from the pain you are in soon. :hug:

 

[Aarow]

I had to go inpatient for a month when my son was four years old. Then had six weeks of outpatient therapy. This happened in the middle of a stressful move, so my husband had to accomplish that by himself, and go on without me. There really wasn't any choice for me. They survived. Please do what you need to do, to survive. Thoughts and prayers are with you. Take good care, Hypothermia.

 

[Hypothermia2012]

Thank you all for your replys. My daughter is 11 months old.. Im going to give in patient a chance... I just hope this is the right choice.

 

[Justmehere]

I hope it all goes really well and you get some good support to keep you safe. For you and your little one. Good decision. :hug:

 

[Aarow]

Will be thinking of you all week! Good luck, get the help you need! Big hugs!