You. Can. Not. Treat a cat that way.
It is distressing to everyone in the house when you yell at the cat. It is every day and it is ridiculous. I have trained this cat specifically to deal with this, but you won’t cooperate EVEN THOUGH THE f*ckING CAT IS COOPERATING (yes! a very good cat! she LIKES being trained for solid rules and boundaries!) and instead yell at her and push her aside with your feet like she’s worthless.
This is unacceptable. It’s not that hard to understand. You do not need to have taken classes in cat training, education, and behavior to figure this out. Being aggressive at a cat makes them aggressive back. And Slinky is not aggressive for any other reason.
So why get angry and act like you’re about to hit this poor cat when she retaliates? Why yell at me when I ask you to “please not do that” because it gives me flashbacks and makes this cat defensive?
It. Is. Not. Hard. To understand.
This poor cat already has to live in an unlivable house. She gets scared when I leave because no one else does her litter box, but then she gets punished for going elsewhere when her box is literally overflowing with shit. News flash, that’s neglect. Straight up neglect.
Weird that this is coming from the one parent who didn’t abuse me. But seeing that you’re capable of being this dense with a harmless, TRAINABLE cat? Hm.
I remember when this happened with the other cat. You would yell and scream at her and claim her brain was turning to jelly because she would lash out. Well, to cats? Yelling is how you start an aggression, a fight. You were starting fights and encouraging them to last for WEEKS. I know what that kind of stress feels like, and so do you. We both lived with my dad. And if I, who is 35 years younger than you are, can understand this? Then so should you.
If this current cat wasn’t so terrified of the outside world I would take her now. If I come back after this summer and I can tell she’s being neglected still? Still nervous from having unclear boundaries with someone who explodes at her? Still scared of messing up during our training sessions? She’s back in my custody. I’ll eat rice and beans to afford her.
Anyway, my service dog loves her to death. And speaking of my service dog — if you yell at her for a second time, I’m f*cking leaving. My dog is way more trained than you are. Shut your f*cking mouth and learn to act like an adult.
And don’t act like I’m being childish when this upsets me. Don’t act like you have to “censor” yourself around me because this upsets me because of my PTSD. It’s not the PTSD. It’s empathy. Don’t hurt my cat. She may prefer to spend her time around you, but if it’s causing her harm I WILL take her away and teach her a calmer, less cluttered life.
At the very least she deserves to not be scared the litter box won’t be cleaned, that people will suddenly get mad at her when she tries to keep them company with unclear rules, and she deserves to live somewhere where she can properly hide LIKE A CAT DOES without getting hurt in piles of trash, getting allergies and skin problems, and getting yelled at for trying to be a cat.
Getting worried when she can see the bottom of her food bowl? Now THAT is normal.
Can’t believe you won’t cooperate with a cat who LIKES being trained and having clear rules. f*cking idiot, you’re acting
