There came a point when I finally realized there are people, mostly family, who just are not going to validate the things that happened in my life, nor the effects that they had on me. I had to accept this and move on.
One thing though, if someone is going to be in my "camp", then they have to at least give me credit for how I feel. They don't have to understand it, they don't have to feel the same way, but they have to treat me with respect and treat me as what I feel or think is real. I don't always feel or understand the way they think or feel, but I'm going to respect you and validate that you have those feelings.
I stopped talking to the people who refuse to validate me about the things that have brought me here. Frankly, I don't need all their naysaying, negative talk. I hear enough of that in my head. I have a hard enough time validating my feelings and what happened. I don't want to fight with anyone else over it.