Other Is It Me....?

[notsurewheretoturn]

Apologies if this is in the wrong place, nowhere else seemed to fit it so please feel free to move it.

I'm going to vent a little here so I'll apologise for that as well.

As some of you may know, I'm self employed. I have a small craft business which I use as a means of art therapy and also an income and I sell mainly at craft events.

I have a friend who teams up with me when doing events as she also has her own small craft business and its a way of spreading the costs, having help etc. We had an event last weekend and we have one tomorrow. These events have been planned for the last 2-3 months.

I sent her a text message this morning giving her all the details of tomorrows event, saying when and where I could meet her, etc only to get one back saying that she isn't going to be able to do it, she's away!

Now, is it me? Am I expecting just too much when I ask people to keep their word, to turn up when they say they are going to or let me know (with notice) when plans change? Or am I being unreasonable?

And does anyone else find being messed around like this a major problem?

I know its not exactly a trigger, but it does stress me out.

 

[watundah]

Seems inconsiderate if she knew months ahead and blew you off without notice especially if it was an agreed upon cooperative event. Maybe a touchy subject but I would expect half the booth fees even if she wasn't there. Did she just forget? This stuff irks me too and makes me feel minimized. I'd also have trust issues in the future. However, if you are good friends, I may let it slide one time, one time only, on the every one makes mistakes premise.

 

[Friday]

I bail on people, have bailed on people & events often enough, unless it's life or death? And I'm talkin gun to my head life or death, not failing to make things easier by their presence... Pretty much the whole world has a free pass.

Shrug... I might say, but I have a disorder... But to me that's hypocritical. It values my life above theirs. As in I should expect that they should value my life above their own. Nope. Same behavior. It's not acceptable when I do it, but messing me about and crossing the line when they do it.

Not saying what you should do, just my own point of view.

 

[notsurewheretoturn]

@watundah she's already aware that she will have to cover her half of the fees. Just not sure when.