Childhood Is It Normal For Parents To Not Know What Color Their Kids Eyes Are?

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I am really messed up when it comes to my eye color. No one ever noticed me enough to know what color my eyes were. As I got older I would ask my grandmother what color my eyes were and she would say, "I don't know brown?" Well, when I look in the mirror I don't see brown.

My grandmother was near-sighted. so vision might have played a role, but she could see well up close, which means she never got close enough to me to see what color my eyes were.

My ex always said I had brown eyes too. SoI have a very hard time believing my husband when he says my eyes are the color I see in the mirror. I told him what color my eyes were online before we met, so I feel like he is only telling me what I told him before he ever saw me.

I don't trust what I see in the mirror. I like the color I see in the mirror, I think they are a very striking and noticeable color, but when you are told so many times growing up and by an ex that your eyes are different than what you see in the mirror it is so hard to trust what you see. If you can't trust what you see, how can you trust yourself at all.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

:hug: That just sucks
And yea, being told something repetedly makes you start believing it, it's the awful thing that repetition makes you learn something

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I would say trust your gut instinct and believe what your eyes are telling you. i think it is very odd that your family did not know the color of your eyes.

 

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1) Yes. It's super strange for a parent not to know what color their kids eyes are. I'd say almooooooost unheard of. Almost, because some decent people have color vision issues, and some people are abusive & neglectful pricks who shouldn't be allowed to parent goldfish. If your grandmother is a decent person? I'd suspect colorblindness or measles damage (high fevers from many now immunized illnesses -but especially measles- destroyed the vision of a lot of children born before 1950. Sometimes leaving them entirely blind, but more commonly removing the short wave -like blues and greens- colors &/or muting colors in general, making them very near sighted, etc.).

2) Do you have hazel eyes? Hazel eyes change color from amber to brown to green to blue to grey. Most people tend to stay in one color range (like browns to greens is the most common) but some people -like my brother*- do the entire spectrum (grey, blue, green, bown, amber) depending on mood & ambient colors. Mine, meanwhile, are blue-hazel. They always look blue, but a gold ring in the center & dark ring at the edge changes the shade of blue from a very boring denim to traffic stopping holy cow! sunlit turquoise. LOL. I love it when they do that. I cheat and just say I have blue eyes, but they're really hazel. My dad, brother, & I all have hazel eyes -in different shades- while my mom, sister, & son have static color eyes.

 

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Wouldn't surprise me if my parents couldn't remember. If asked spontaneously, I think they'd probably guess I had brown eyes like my mum and my 2 oldest siblings. My closest sister is obvious - blonde hair and bright blue eyes.

I remember I dyed my hair black once and everyone (everyone) kept commenting with surprise "wow, you have such green eyes".

Weird. Very weird:grumpy:

 

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No, my grandmother was not a decent person. I am just now coming to realize she probably had narcassistic personality disorder. She wasn't color blind, I can guarantee it.

My eyes are what I call Mt. Dew bottle green. But they can be darker depending on my mood and lighter if I have been crying for some reason.

@Ragdoll Circus Interesting that we both have green eyes, and people don't seem to notice.

 

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That's a beautiful color :) Very gamerish :P

 

[Sammyiam]

I always got told my eyes were brown as well but they are green my husband tells me. Maybe we are twins after all :p

 

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My eyes are green, as well, in a family full of blues and hazels. My mother knew the color of my eye. She would always tell me what a shame it was that I wasn't blessed with blue eyes...sigh...

 

[Lucycat]

I don't have children, but think I would know the colour of their eyes as I cannot imagine not gazing into their faces as tiny babies. But you have made me think - I have 3 stepsons and 4 step grandchildren. I have no idea the eye colour of any of them.

But one of my foibles is that I rarely make eye contact with anybody.