Is It Possible To Have Ptsd From Being Cheated On?

[Absurdity]

Hey ppls,
Could someone attempt a diagnosis on me? Just curious.
My partner cheated on me over 10 yrs ago with my best friend at the time. A friend I had seen almost everyday since the age of 8.
I vomited at the news. I vomited occasionally through the following year when my thoughts became really intense.
I couldnt eat or sleep.
I lost 35kgs that year.
I would get bad stomach cramps that would last for more than a day and multiple trips to the doc but they were unable to find anything wrong. The stomach pain was like a burning cramping feeling all over my abdomen leaving me curled in a ball but nothing helped it.
I would get cramps in my muscles.
It would stop me from sleeping.
I would have nightmares and wake to find I was crying or had been crying.
I was suicidal. I survived though.
Barely.
I got to the point where I was hallucinating things whizzing past my head like I was being shot at.
I lost my faith in everything and everyone. I thought everyone was in on it. I lost my grip on reality.
I saw infidelity everywhere. Everywhere!
I still see it everywhere.
I still cant see the ppl that were my friends at the time without having a minor or major memory attack and having many of these symptoms reappear for days to weeks at a time.
I havent enjoyed sex since.
It reminds me of the event.
I would actually class my self as asexual now. I have no sexual attraction to anyone.
5yrs later I suspected my partner of cheating. I think it was all in my head. I had many of the same symptoms. Everything except vomiting actually.
I felt like i was going crazy.
It happened 2 years after that.
Ive had 3 or 4 major attacks and numerous minor attacks that would only last a few days/weeks.
When it happens my brain cannot shut off on the matter. I have to drink myself to sleep.
I trance out into deep dark thoughts and memories.
I have to stop driving sometimes because I trance out.
I cant concentrate on anything...nothing else matters.
Until it all goes numb and I stop caring. Ive been calling it a nervous breakdown.

I had another attack about a month ago which is almost 11 years on.
I was stressing after a lifestyle change.
My gf wasnt cheating on me.
But a friend triggered a memory and I went into a downward spiral. All the same symptoms except vomiting.

Name my disorder :P
Am I just insane?

 

[Neverthesame]

Nobody can diagnose you here, though I believe infidelity alone is not included in the diagnostic criteria for PTSD.

Reading through your post I can see your quality of life is suffering substantially as a result of your symptoms. I would suggest you speak with your doctor to see if they can write you a referral for a psychiatrist, who will be able to diagnose you.

At which point you will be in a position to seek the correct therapy for whatever it is that you are suffering from. Good luck.

 

[Absurdity]

Thankyou for your reply and advice :)

 

[Avery]

Hi Leah,

To answer your primary question, no, being cheated on is not traumatic to cause PTSD.

Saying that...

Everything you have said is untrue. Leading psychologists and psychiatrists as well as PTSD treatment specialists do say that being cheated on is more than traumatic enough to cause PTSD.

 

[Avery]

My fiance cheated on me 3 years ago over the course of 8 months and since then I feel like my whole life just got turne...

According to some of the staff here the answer is no. But according to Drs psychiatrists psychologists PTSD treatment therapists and experts all agree that infidelity is an experience that causes PTSD the ONLY reason it is assigned PISD (post-infidelity stress disorder) is for clarification purposes only, it is identical in every way to PTSD and it is as stated it assigned pisd for patient and doctor clarification purposes only.
I do not wish to sound rude but you should find a Dr or a psychologist and consult the men of science, rather than asking on a forum where the apparent staff feels they know better than doctors or psychologists on matters of the human brain.

 

[Avery]

Leeon2.0 you're arguing with the wrong guy! If you want to argue that being cheated on can cause PTSD,...

Apparently you ignorant idiots need to pay attention to the consnesus of actual psychologists, just because the book hasn't been updated with it yet the greater scientific community at large disagrees with these idiots.

 

[anthony]

Apparently you ignorant idiots need to pay attention to the consnesus of actual psychologists

Psychologists are not psychiatrists, being the doctors of mental health. Their consensus, obviously does not agree with your ignorance and bias, otherwise cheating would be on the list of traumas severe enough for PTSD diagnosis.

Honestly, your responses are more trolling and emotional, than factual. Broad statements about consensus of psychologists, when you have demonstrated zero credibility that you talk on behalf of the majority of global psychologists.

Please evidence these credentials to substantiate your statements, otherwise you're words are just emotional based and there is no substance to your assertions.

There IS substance to all those who say no to this question, as all doctrine states such and so it seems, the psychiatric panel of 13,000+ psychiatrists, disagree with your view, who provide their expert recommendations to such doctrine.

Either state your evidence or get off your high emotional horse, and write as an individual and not collectively talking on behalf of an entire professional community.

 

[Nelson132]

I am truly disgusted with the people in this thread. While the DSMV is a good source it is NOT I repeat NOT the end all be all on psychological disorders.

For f*cking starters, PTSD wasn't even in there until a while after, does that mean it did not exist before it was put into the book? You quote the DSMV like its the word of f*cking Christ, you know the words but the real meaning of it all is lost on you. Avery is correct according to any reliable source the psychological treatment community DOES consider infidelity a cause of PTSD, someone mentioned that it is neurologically permanent, this is correct and ALL reliable scientific sources with the exclusion of the DSMV at this moment, say that infidelity can and does cause these neurological changes in a person, the long term effects are being studied and low and behold what are they saying? That infidelity is not only a cause of PTSD but it makes up for a large group of people who likely are living with undiagnosed PTSD.

You can quote the book like a Christian quoting the bible, failing to understand a single word coming out of your mouth all you want, the men of SCIENCE the same men who developed treatments and diagnosis for PTSD (not the same men obviously but you get it) almost entirely disagree with you in every facet.

 

[anthony]

The shame here, is that you're the same person, now answering yourself to try and substantiate your own agenda. Troll. Your IP's match for both user Avery and Nelson132.

These type of responses demonstrate further your individualistic emotional view versus the factual view of the very science community you reference.

No further responses from you will be approved.

 

[anthony]

Oh... added. You obviously have little idea about mental health manuals, because the DSM is about to be far more lenient with PTSD than the ICD 11, as they have tightened PTSD criterion much further than the DSM. Manuals exist for good reason... to demonstrate that collective psychiatric consensus across the world. Both manuals tend to be not too much different for good reason, because the community you keep referencing seems to obviously disagree with you, because they're the input source to both manuals.

 

[hodge]

Good lord, why would anyone want to be diagnosed with PTSD??? I wish I had my old life back!

 

[anthony]

There will always be people who may have PTSD from something outside its diagnostic scope, no question about it. But that is what other diagnoses are for, to cover those areas. A diagnosis cannot suit every single possible outcome. PTSD is reserved for the worst type of trauma -- and people just can't fathom that, especially when becoming personally invested with their own situation.

When the ICD and DSM have differing opinions on what constitutes PTSD, then so be it. Until then... is a noisy minority who are anti-doctrine and believe everything and anything can be diagnosed with PTSD, right? Or are the majority of doctors (psychiatrists) and leading psychologists, who come together and agree on a best practice approach, right?

One of the best things that DSM did, and ICD is shifting to, is isolating out traumatic disorders so that trauma can have applicable diagnoses relevant to their specifics. The list of trauma diagnoses will grow over the decades... but this mentality of fitting everything into PTSD just has to STOP.

Both have positives and negatives, no question about it. The last PTSD criterion allowed for gaping holes for anything to befit PTSD, and it caused chaos in diagnostic application. They tightened it... now it seems to be much better controlled and accurately applied. There are other diagnoses outside of PTSD that adequately cover traumatic events. Being raped does not guarantee you PTSD if you do not present with all the symptoms.

There will always be issues with diagnostic application. But a bored student with zero experience, thinking they know it all about PTSD, does not make an adequate discussion for what should, and should not, befit PTSD. Especially claiming to talk on behalf of an entire psychological community versus their personal opinion alone -- let alone the inability to actually discuss versus just argue, insult and well... the very things no PTSD sufferer wants from their possible future therapist.