Sexual Assault Is It Strange For A Mother To Ask A Child To Touch Her?

[bellaheart]

See what you are saying is you have thoughts on it and try not to act on it, that is suicidal. What is your...

i emailed my counselors about an hour ago. i never attempted to kill myself but ive done self harm. i am doing okay right now because i don't want to die or anything so please dont worry about my safety right now. i am determined to becoming better. and about my sister, we aren't close either. we get into a lot of fights, sadly. i don't feel comfortable talking about personal issues and i never have talked to her about my suicidal thoughts.

 

[Queen Boudica]

Good I am relieved to hear you emailed the counsellor. Whatever happens sounds like you are very unhappy and your family are not listening but a consellor will.

 

[PoopyPTSD]

Yes, that is molestation. It's more rare for women to molest than men, either that or it's least reported. My mother molested me, but it was out of spite against my dad who had did so as well. Then she started to like it. I think this form of abuse, at least for me, was harder to work through than what my dad had done. I hope you get some peace with this memory.

 

[Laurie2001]

hello i made another post wondering if i was molested as a child earlier but i want to be more specif...

Yes it is inappropriate. Completely. I would say that is definitely sexual abuse. She was not asking you to breast feed.She was asking you to suck on her breasts. The fact that you wanted her to grope you, later or at another time speaks to the sexualized relationship. This has nothing to do with culture, etc. I'm sorry it happened!

 

[I have a username]

Hey, I'm reading this now so hope you're ok. Yes, that def sounds like abuse. The way your memories are all confused is a clear sign actually. You may doubt on yourself but this quote from a criminal detective I heard once that I keep with me might help: "If you have doubt you have no doubt."

No kid growing up in healthy environment wonders if he / she have ever been abused, that's not a normal question to ask. When the abuse occured in this sort of covert way, then it's normal to ask, so you know it happened.

Look for help outside your house and figure out the best strategy to deal with being there while you're still a minor. Best of luck, we're here for you.

 

[Chava]

I don't know what to say about all of this. Like is "groping" like loving stroking? There's a difference. But maybe fuzzy in some ways. That is really late to be breast-feeding, but based on the cultural differences, I can't really comment well on that either. What is a little off to me is that you seem to describe your parents as emotionally aloof or negligent and yet your mom was touchy-feely. I don't see those as going together so neatly. A healthy touchy-feely mom is more often associated with also being loving, warm, nurturing, etc. So, sorry I don't quite know what to make of this.

If you've had suicidal thoughts you do need to ask a counselor or other professional for help. If your parents find out you are not okay, that would simply be the truth, and they need to know. But suffering on your own can become increasingly exhausting at any age, but especially as you gradually approach adulthood and feel limited in skills to cope. So while I can't answer your original question (sorry) I can say you deserve help. Maybe talk to a counselor, or some adult you trust, and share that you are also afraid of your parents finding out...hopefully a counselor could help talk you through that or reassure you that you will be okay. You need support for all of this.

 

[Blabla]

This is textbook sexual abuse.

Almost had to laugh at the "cultural differences" comments here. If a grown woman asks her 7 or 8 year old child (!!!!) to suck her breasts something is definitely seriously messed up and wrong. Not to mention the gropings. This is the time when the first sexual feelings develop, and in this case they do develop .. when you suck your mother's breasts.. come on!

I know for sure that if had to suck my mother's breasts at that age it would seriously mess me up on all levels. It would have been definitely super-traumatic.