Is Pride Acceptable?

[EveHarrington]

I think it's awesome to have a sense of pride! I'm finally learning that I can be proud of my accomplishments. And it feels pretty darned good!

Yes, pride is one of the 7 deadly sins; however this is really talking about being overly proud.

In the end, as with many things in life, it's about balance. There is indeed such a thing as a heathy amount of pride.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Does anyone else relate at all?

200% sorta sums up that question.

The MOD on the other site has started to say several good things about me on every message and i throw my phone...my $200 phone mind you...cause it pisses me off so bad. I access the sites on my phone.

I lack the abilty to see anything good about me; not one damn thing...

 

[Recovery4Me]

Wishing you a speedy recovery during the hospital stay and confidence in your journey to heal. Understanding pride is needed in order to foster and pass it to our children, friends and communities. Good thread.

 

[Klo]

I circumvent semantics that have been tainted, just easier for me to roll that way.

Rather than pride, if that were a tainted word, I would go with "dignity" as in the "bearing, conduct, or speech indicative of self respect or appreciation of the formality or gravity of an occasion or situation" definition.

In context what that might look like is having a dignified attitude about your strengths, achievements and so on, having a full amount of respect and appreciation for your positive qualities, etc.

 

[Ronin]

I circumvent semantics that have been tainted, just easier for me to roll that way.

^^ And this. Wise words & a smart way to get through.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I agree that being over prideful is being obnoxious and you are not that way at all.

I hope for the day when you can begin to accept compliments to you. I think that you being in therapy and in hospital dealing with your issues and not being able to self harm is wonderful.

I hope the day comes soon when you begin to question the false lies and false beliefs trained into you.

I think this was a very good thing to talk about it sure has enlightened me.

 

[Lionheart]

I think being overly full of pride is wrong and comes off as conceit.

I like what everyone has said and I especially like the idea of cultivating dignity. I try hard to be a dignified man, confident in my abilities without over-valuing myself....sometimes it is like a balancing act, but I am getting better at allowing myself to accept compliments gracefully.

 

[Ronin]

Different view, here. If you're good at something? Or not even good at it but darned like doing it? Hell yeah you have a right to be proud of it and proud of yourself.

All of that 'over-valuing' self is nonsense to keep people in line & established hierarchies unchangeable, and that isn't a good thing to do to people.

 

[ladee]

@Cashew.. I totally get what you are saying. For me, it is being around people that are arrogant, which always implies insecurity to me, or totally 'unconscious people'...I have to get away from that kind of energy. But people that made an airplane model or drew a picture and are proud of their work... well hell ya, I'm PROUD for them.....I am proud of some of my art work... so I totally understand.

 

[Ronin]

@ladee Yeah I think it's different things, pride / arrogance, and expressing either abusively is a different thing altogether, but I can see how the lines just aren't clear that well between what's pride and in what forms it comes across better.

 

[Recovery4Me]

All of that 'over-valuing' self is nonsense to keep people in line & established hierarchies unchangeable, ...

Raising fist in rebel salute.:hug: Pride does not equal false pride: it is a throw back conditioning. Ask any male Lion.;)

You were my Political Science Professor, huh?:clown:

 

[EveHarrington]

Many are proud simply for the way they are born; no accomplishment necessary.

Heritage, sexual orientation, etc.

Is this pride wrong?

No.

Well, wrong only when it goes too far. (Same as any pride. It's good when in balance and not a matter of superiority.)