I second this. I had deep transference with my T. Attachment trauma blah blah blah. I asked her if it was like that for all her clients and she said not at all. Some were business like, coach like.Maybe that's the thing to explore: the wonder about whether you need it or not.
One thing about the closeness with T that is way different than closeness with friends and family is that it’s meant to have an end, it’s meant to be temporary.
Perhaps knowing that it’s temporary and that the cultivation of this temporary relationship for the purpose of healing/rewiring is what the T’s are trained in doing—how they earn their money—changes your perspective? They don’t want closeness just to get off on, so to speak, but as a way to do their job.
Some people are hurt by the fact that the attachment is meant to have an ending. I always thought of it like a cast. I needed it and it felt good when I had it on (protection, care, positive growth) but it was never meant to function like the relationships with my friends and family—even though it provoked/triggered feelings I would normally associate with people I loved and loathed.