Is There Healing For People Like Me?

[raven123]

Rumors, I hope you had a great Christmas! I found 4 shrinks here locally I didn't know about last night and just in the last 2 hours. Writing an email to send them about me. Gonna call them tomorrow and see what their rates and expertise happens to be. One specializes in rape crisis and child abuse the way her website talks. She seems to be a good one. I tried to send you a PM, but it says, "This member limits who may view their full profile." I'll try and PM you stuff later, or PM me. Thank you again for your offer. Happy Holidays! :) xo

 

[raven123]

I hope everyone had a good Christmas! Happy Holidays! xo

 

[Sailorgal]

That's wonderful news Raven. Hope you find a good match in expertise and compassion! :)

 

[safenow]

Congrats, Raven. I'm happy your able to take Rumors up on the offer. I hope your New Years will be so good.

 

[Rumors]

Good deal Raven. Not sure why you can't PM me but I will figure it out. I am glad you were able to find at least 4 new options. That is a good thing! I hope they can give you loads of information and tools that can help you during the hard times!

I had a great Christmas, thank you. I hope you did as well. Looking forward to a happy, healthy, and prosperous new year!

 

[raven123]

Rumors,

Hope everyone had a good day. I looked up those 4 shrinks as much as possible. I emailed two. One that claims she has a sliding scale for uninsured patients. She seems to have lots of experience with sex abuse and rape. Lots of CE in it. The three others I couldn't find much about--basically, we treat anything shrinks and one loves to go to court (I'm in court a lot--keeping rich kids out of juvenile hall for $300-500 an hour is his deal). Good for him, but I already had 2 bad shrinks like that. One of them downright abusive.

Three were men and I have lots of problems even talking to men about anything. I had one male shrink in the past and he was an asshole so big trust issues with male shrinks. If they were flaming homosexuals, it probably wouldn't matter. I always get along well with gay men even though I'm not gay. LOL The email to her contained a lot more about me than the one guy shrink. I'll let you know when I get a response. Thank you again. Maybe I will finally find some answers to the question--is healing even possible given my circumstances. Until you offered the therapy sessions, Rumors, I decided just to fake it all since life was obviously telling me, not much hope. So, thank you again. :) I want to know if there is, what it takes, or not. I tried to PM you (go to your profile to do that) and it says,

"PTSD Forum - Error
This member limits who may view their full profile."

No idea how to send a PM without going to your profile. :)

Safenow, when you called me a female, you were right. I'm transgendered and tested at like 80% female mentally. I've accepted that and can just live as a feminine as hell "male". Rare time I've ever been anywhere close to happy.

I'm off to bed. Work tomorrow then off Saturday. :)

 

[anonymous]

Lots of CE in it.

Can you explain CE? I don't understand what CE means
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[Abstract]

Anonymous,
I think it's sad you felt you needed to be anonymous. I don't believe that this type of situation is what it is for at all. I say that with care and not judgement. This isn't even an assertiveness situation. I hope you can practice speaking up even though I know it can be difficult.

Can you explain CE?

 

[Rumors]

If it makes anonymous feel better, I am not sure either so I put my own meaning into the abbreviation. I am assuming it means, "clinical expertise" but I am not sure. In any case, it works there so I am going to fly with that. ;) I am just happy that raven has possibly found someone that can help!

 

[cherryblossom]

I think it's sad you felt you needed to be anonymous.

Not sad, Abstract, I posted the anonymous post. I'm quite capable of being assertive and speaking out.

Often I come here as a member, reading learning, and sometimes attempting to help other members and myself.

Other times I come here simply with my 'staff' head on, when I edit, send notifications, and help members to follow rules.

I read this post, not understanding CE, and posed the question anonymously so as to not come across simply as staff laying down the rules, but because as a member I didn't understand the term 'CE'.

Sometimes there is a fine line between being a moderator and being a member. I wrote anonymously because I wanted to understand as a member what was being said. You perhaps don't realise quite how offended and defensive people can be, if staff raise a query, which is why I asked my question anonymously.

Perhaps that was the wrong thing to do, in which case I apologise to raven123, but I still have no idea what CE means.

 

[Abstract]

Cherryblossom,
I can only begin to imagine how defensive members can be. Mostly I think because peoples default is that they are being attacked even when they are not. I didn't see it as wrong as such at all and can understand your motives! I was just concerned as if it was a member that had assertiveness issues then I think it would be very bad for them. I could not see a healthy reason for a member to do it.

I am sure you are plenty assertive enough in your life so no concerns! :) None of us know what CE is so we all look forward to Raven filling us in.

 

[cherryblossom]

I didn't see it as wrong as such at all

Abstract, you clearly did think that there was something wrong with it since you commented in this thread, and you also reported the (my anonymous) post. I don't know of any forum rules about posting anonymously, but my personal opinion is that if a member chooses to post anonymously than that is their choice and their right, and it shouldn't be questioned in the thread or reported, unless it breaks basic forum rules. I honestly think you were genuinely concerned, which is a good trait, and I have no bad feelings towards towards you, but let's move on and keep this thread on topic.