Is This A Stupid Idea?

[Deleted member 1860]

Ok so two weeks ago I saw this guy while I was downtown. Sharply dressed, very professional. I'm thinking that maybe he's a lawyer? Anyway, I know he noticed me as we did this extended eye lock thing, which I thought was HOT, but anyway... I go downtown on Fridays and last week I noticed his car there again, as he parks in one of the permit spaces. So would it be totally insane to leave him my number and a cute note? Normally I don't chase after guys, but at this point I know more about him than he does about me (as in I know he works there, but to him I was just a chance sighting, and he has no way of knowing I'm downtown on Fridays, so really if anything happens, I'm gonna have to set the ball rolling!

Thoughts?

 

[Abstract]

I think its fine to do. Just be careful though and if he wants to meet up go very slow and for coffee in open places etc. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Would a relationship help your wellbeing at present if you are realistic about where you are?

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Yes, slow is good. Public places are good!

I think a relationship would help me at this point as my healing seems to be progressing quite well. Of course slow is good, too, as I'm in no rush for anything.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Wishing you the best on this one.

 

[piratelady]

That's great that you are willing to venture out there! I think it's a good idea and second what Abstract said. I hope it goes well for you.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Now I just feel stupid! What guy would call some stupid girl who leaves a freakin note for him?!? Ugh, I'm destined to be eternally single!

 

[Deleted member 1860]

And no I haven't left the note yet...

 

[Loveneverfails]

Goodluck and I really hope it goes well. Most successful men like a woman to take charge, so I'm thinking at the VERY least, you'll flatter the guy, make him smile and brighten his day. So in my mind, you can't lose.

 

[NIKI]

At first I was thinking No. I don't think you should. BUT, then I remembered how it was before I got married had kids and became really tired. :rolleyes: So, I say have fun and go for it. Can't hurt anything. And I also think he would be flattered. GO FOR IT!

 

[GreenFrog2]

I was in a similar situation of couple of years ago. And did nothing. I can still remember being too frightened to respond. Every time I saw the guy we would hold eye contact and smile like teenagers, then I would end up ducking my head, and walk (scurry) away. Wish I had been more receptive to human contact then - I can still remember him and how I believed that there was no way he would keep smiling like that if he knew how much of a basket case I was!

I still regret this and look forward to the next time someone tries to engage with me. I have made a solemn promise to myself that if this kind of thing happens again I will at least say hello!

So I say go for it - be safe, but go for it.

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

So I say go for it - be safe, but go for it.

You might wanna state "NOT looking for a 'hook-up, just a friend!" Good luck!

 

[Trembling]

I think it is an awesome idea, but as others said, slow and careful.

Good luck! ;)