Is This Me Being Triggered....

[shimmerz]

Or is there something wrong with this....

Do you know Jesus as your Lord and Savior? Do you know He loves you with an everlasting love?

Ask Him to come into your life and rescue you! He will, trust Him with your life, He's trustworthy and reliable.

Praying for you!

I found this in another thread. I am attempting to tread carefully here because I know a number of people are very much into Christianity. This seems above and beyond though. Not sure where the line is.

I respect those who believe in God. I get it. I believed in him too until religion became a tool used against me. So my views have changed. God stuff triggers the crap out of me for tons of reasons. God stuff from people who insist that God will help me/rescue me/ blah blah blah blah blah I find insufferably annoying.

For those of us who didn't have a chance from get go (trauma from birth and prior), horrendous abuse from the moment we took our first breaths.... forgive me but it is a knife in my heart to hear the 'God was there for me'. He was NOT. My thoughts. They don't need to be anyone else's.

I am just trying to gain perspective as to whether this quote is too much or if I am being overly sensitive.

 

[sonicwhite]

Shimmerz I understand.......it is fifty fifty with me. When I mess up I am extremely hard on myself but I never blame God only stupid Daniel that made a poor choice. Like you I have suffered vally's upon vally's an I used to blame God for everything. The day my life changed is when I took full responsibility for whatever whirlwind came me way. but to be innocent and endure heartache and trauma I could see this as triggering someone like yourself.......Be safe, try not to absorb it and just go on like you have been , being strong.

 

[laurainalameda]

This freaked me out too. I tried to roll with it and ignore it as some insensitive person trying to be helpful......but yeah, I'm now working out how to block that poster.

 

[Changing4Best]

I'm a Christian and I sometimes may not know where exactly to start and to finish talking about God. I do mention Him in my posts a lot, because He has helped me in my life a lot. I think I might be more inclined to mention how He has helped me or that He has, rather than inviting others to do the above. I hope I have not offended anyone. I have no idea whether I have, I guess, because no one has ever written to me to say that I have. As to anyone blocking me, I guess maybe I would never know if someone had. I think that is how it works anyway, but I don't know for sure.

 

[Fadeaway]

@shimmerz I hear you. It really depends on what it is though, for it to trigger me.

forgive me but it is a knife in my heart to hear the 'God was there for me'. He was NOT. My thoughts. They don't need to be anyone else's.

Exactly. There is a country song that talks about Jesus being there when her parents dies or something. When I was a beliver, it hurt me so much more, because I wondered what was worng with me, that he wasn't there for me.

@sonicwhite Very insightful post.

God will never give us more than we can handle, but only to make us stronger in the end.

This was the one that really got me. I had many issues with this woman's version of Christianity. We do have some wonderful believers here, whom I highly respect, but the things this woman said, is exactly why I don't believe anymore.

@SheilaKathy I respect your posts when you talk about you beliefs. I have never had a negative vibe from your words as I did the two poster mentioned on this thread. :hug:

 

[shimmerz]

@SheilaKathy , I have a different set of spiritual things that I use that I mention a fair bit in my postings too (although mostly in my diary). I have seen your postings, Sonic's postings. I understand that when you speak, you speak about your experiences. I can easily read them and see them as 'your way', which I am totally cool with. I attempt to do the same with my beliefs if I post about them.

I think the problem here is the 'you must' direction of this posting.

 

[Friday]

It's the best someone has to offer someone else.

It may be exactly what the other person needs to hear, or it may be the worst thing possible for them to hear. We never know how anyone is going to take whatever any of us say.

There's no attack in the post, no threats (religious or otherwise). There's not even a "you must" if you go back and reread it. I just read it as someone sharing their own truth, which happens to be christian faith based. Shrug. I'm not christian, but I don't see any harm or ill intent, much less crossing forum boundaries... Just a differing opinion.

So I would suspect, yes, you're triggered from Christianity being used as a tool against you... Or "just" rabidly disagree with their opinion.

 

[PlainJane]

forgive me but it is a knife in my heart to hear the 'God was there for me'.

I am a Christian, as you know, but I whole heartedly agree with this. I can say without the bible my choices would no doubt be harmful to me. It has provided a certain amount of protection and practical advice.

I do not believe so much in divine intervention. Who am I, as a Christian, to think God has preserved my life but allowed innocent young children to die or worse by cruel means. By starvation, abuse, war, etc. Nor do I believe he was with me during my abuse (and that fact would remain unchanged regardless of my religious status), and if I were to find myself in a position that was more then precarious would he intervene. This is not a matter of my worth, but the world we live in is not his and is not in his hands. It disgusts me.

From the get go, I have dealt with unsavory characters to say the least. I did not grow up in a religious house hold. As a Christian if I believed that he saved me from such and such and not another human, or if I believed that he had control of the world and its devices it would mean that I believed in a god as cruel as those who abuse so many here. Same thoughts apply to the statement "he has a plan for you."

The bible has taught me things my parents never did. Yes, a good portion of the things I learned I could have learned through various other sources. However, I believe it is a divinely inspired book, and that it was given to us as a tool to direct my life in the best possible way. All in one convient package.

The above statement made is just something people say because they don't know what else to say. It is a superficial statement, with little meaning. As humans we grasp on to the best thing we have and the best idea we have, until something better comes along. Until we learn something better, because it's all we have at the moment.

I generally tread lightly on said subject, and hope I haven't offended anybody. And also hope my thoughts were clear and able to follow.

 

[PlainJane]

Lol, reading over what I wrote, it obviously pisses me off a bit. But it's not because I'm triggered, which I think is your case. It get me going because I'm an ass.

 

[shimmerz]

Great varying perspectives. This is something I plan on working on as I know I am out of whack on it, but because I immediately got that 'feeling' about it, thought I would ask. Jury is still out for me on this particular quote.

'You should' or 'Have you because it works' - to me - is not something that needs to be said. That is like saying, Ativan helps me so you should take it too. Religion is a very personal matter. Better to say (imho) 'This works for me'.

I am still not certain, as it does seem pushy to me. Pushy, however, does not necessarily mean that I should be reacting to it with a feeling of dread I suppose.

And Jane, you are NOT an ass. lol Silly girl!

 

[scout86]

That particular line (and maybe you know this) is something commonly associated with the Baptists and some of the more Baptist-like non-denominational fundamentalists. A lot of the time, I'm not sure they're thinking about what they're saying, they're saying it because they've been told it's "the thing to say".

There's a bunch of stuff that gets said, probably because people don't know what else to say, that has a basis in scripture, but requires more interpretation than the bumper sticker versions that usually get said. Like the God being "there for you" business. Also "not giving you more than you can handle". "Why does bad stuff happen?" has been a topic of great theological debate for centuries. WAY too complicated for a bumper sticker!

I can see how it could be a trigger, depending on your experiences.

I believed in him too until religion became a tool used against me.

I don't know if it's useful, but remember, "God" didn't do that, people did. And, just because someone claims to be a follower of a particular faith doesn't mean they are. Any more than some random guy asking a kid to help him look for his lost puppy, means he's really THAT, not a child molester looking for a victim.

I am just trying to gain perspective as to whether this quote is too much or if I am being overly sensitive.

JMO, I've had that particular line throw at me by a well intentioned friend. It was annoying, at best. But I think you might be more sensitive than average and with reason. Don't know that that makes you "overly sensitive".

 

[PlainJane]

There's a bunch of stuff that gets said, probably because people don't know what else to say, that has a basis in scripture, but requires more interpretation than the bumper sticker versions that usually get said

This was probably a lot more tactful and accurate way of putting it. A much more understanding perspective. Thank you.