I've Run Out Of Options

[VioletButterfly]

Just a thought... Express your feelings and frustrations and ask for insights, perspective, and "options" that others might have found helpful. Sometimes, I just ask for prayer and support, no solutions. My posts tend to go a little sideways sometimes as I have wicked high anxiety, so I may wax on a bit, but others graciously respond by sharing experiences, helpful solutions, etc... I don't think there is a specific format, if that's what you're looking for. I hope that is helpful. VB

 

[Deleted member 28740]

I guess that I have to get better first before asking for support.

Somewhat similar situation - maybe. Wouldn't need help if I had it sorted, but when 'it' needs sorting out I am at my lowest. Asking for help is hard. For me because too often that seemed like the last of trust and energy I had to reach out and survive. Still breathing though the letdowns. Nurture you, be kind to you, and the hardest for me was to not take it personally. Here it is very personal, but not with the family friend skewed and loaded misconceptions, preconceptions, and no understanding of PTSD, or willingness to even accept it. Shame on them. Not me.

 

[EveHarrington]

Thanks. Will need to heal first. Hate how people need to be at a certain "level" before they can reach out and get support. Makes no sense to me but it's nothing new. I should be used to it by now. Symptoms cause the issue but also prevent help. Fckd either way until you figure out how to get out of the hole on your own. Boot straps are real, huh.

 

[Sideways]

I think I know what you mean by having to be at a certain 'level' before you reach out. Truth is, when I'm rock bottom, I don't want help, it feels like it's just going to make it worse in so many ways. It shouldn't be like that, we "should" be able to just reach out any time. Should statements. Toss 'em aside.

I firmly believe there is no 'right' way to reach out. When I get to the point where I can, I worry about what I'm going to say. A lot. So these days, I keep it simple. I've pre-planned who I can reach out to in a crisis, and when it happens, all I start with is "I need help". That's it. "I need help". It's honest, to the point, and I haven't said anything that I'm going to need to worry about.

The pre-planning who to reach out with takes care of the rest. They know. They're in the headspace to deal with the situation that I can't. So they ask the questions from there, and all I need to do is answer what I can, as honestly as I can.

Start with the basics. "I need help". It's always, always okay to say that.

Thoughts have been with you Eve. Know you're in a dark place right now, and I hope some light comes in for you soon.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

There no right or wrong way to ask for help, ever! I, myself, have been lost for words MANY times and could only state what I was thinking and feeling and "Ive run out of options" is one ive thought and felt MANY times. And i truely feel that there are no options left. There are many reasons I may feel that way but if I do, its not wrong. Feelings are never wrong.

Therefore, to say there are no options left is just stating how you feel right now. In reality, there are likely many options avalible but you cant see them at the moment and thats ok. The idea is that you feel supported until the dust settles and then you can see the options that are there.

My 2 cents.

 

[Abstract]

I truly agree with the others that its absolutely right and good to ask for help and/or support at any and all times.I hope you can find a way to do that more and more. If you mean discussing explicit suicide stuff then I think that's for practical reasons and to make sure people get real life help if they need it. An internet site can't keep us physically safe. Feeling one can can also distance one from real life help. You can still speak and get help without discussing explicits though. If you are present danger please get the real time help you need. Your safety is important.

Can't ask for support myself at all times either of course! Do as I say not do. The more I need it the less I can. Long founded habits of silence when I feel unsafe and I've realised some sort of instinctive "don't let whoever is watching and plotting to harm you" gather information and ammunition. A touch of paranoia! More symptoms = more of all sorts of course! I am improving and sort of hate as well as feel relief about the change.