Nelson2015
Bronze Member
Okay, so I am highly aware that ppl with PTSD have good and bad days/weeks/months. I also know that everyone is different. With that being said... I need to vent. I would love thoughts and advice, but please don't think I'm ignorant to the roller coaster ride that I am on.
My fiancé (ex I guess) has Combat PTSD with TBI. We broke up a little over a month ago... With little notice to me. He said he tried to fix himself for too long and that we needed to end it so he could wor on himself. I think he was afraid he was going to hurt me... He never did... But his anger scared him. He wasn't an angry person before and I guess he is having problems controlling it.
I do my best to accept that. And even over the past month "we" have gotten better... Good and bad days though.
I'm going to list out the things that make me happy but also confused:
*He talks to me daily... Maybe 1 or 2 days a week go by without a chat. (That's weird right? I mean wouldn't it be more likely that he would isolate?)
* We are still sexually active with each other, but still have normal talks... It's not all about sex... we send memes and talks about work and our family. (Idk if that's good or bad, but we both enjoy it/get a good release from it)
*The other day we were hanging out and before he left he asked for a hug and asked if he could kiss me. (I usually ask for a hug, but where did that kiss come from?)
*The other night we were texting in bed and I said I wished he was laying next to me and he sent me a selfies (for the first time since we broke up)
* He is all of a sudden aware of things like not texting the day before and apologizing for things that he thinks may upset me.
*He is concerned about me finding the job I want even though it no longer affects him.
*And today I told him I missed him. He said... "I'm sorry I miss you too". I said "Probably not the same way I miss us and you". He said "I do".
Why why why... What does that all mean? Good things? Is that progress... meaning he doesn't want to completely let us go but he has to work on himself? Idk... So confusing.
My fiancé (ex I guess) has Combat PTSD with TBI. We broke up a little over a month ago... With little notice to me. He said he tried to fix himself for too long and that we needed to end it so he could wor on himself. I think he was afraid he was going to hurt me... He never did... But his anger scared him. He wasn't an angry person before and I guess he is having problems controlling it.
I do my best to accept that. And even over the past month "we" have gotten better... Good and bad days though.
I'm going to list out the things that make me happy but also confused:
*He talks to me daily... Maybe 1 or 2 days a week go by without a chat. (That's weird right? I mean wouldn't it be more likely that he would isolate?)
* We are still sexually active with each other, but still have normal talks... It's not all about sex... we send memes and talks about work and our family. (Idk if that's good or bad, but we both enjoy it/get a good release from it)
*The other day we were hanging out and before he left he asked for a hug and asked if he could kiss me. (I usually ask for a hug, but where did that kiss come from?)
*The other night we were texting in bed and I said I wished he was laying next to me and he sent me a selfies (for the first time since we broke up)
* He is all of a sudden aware of things like not texting the day before and apologizing for things that he thinks may upset me.
*He is concerned about me finding the job I want even though it no longer affects him.
*And today I told him I missed him. He said... "I'm sorry I miss you too". I said "Probably not the same way I miss us and you". He said "I do".
Why why why... What does that all mean? Good things? Is that progress... meaning he doesn't want to completely let us go but he has to work on himself? Idk... So confusing.
